In this episode of The Dark Side with Verity, Verity Jo Coonan explores what happens when healing stops being private and starts becoming something to perform.
In a world where inner work is increasingly documented, filtered, and shared, Verity speaks to the quiet pressure to always appear healed, regulated, evolved, and self-aware and the nervous system cost of turning growth into an identity.
She unpacks how healing can begin to feel like a costume that can’t be taken off, how constant self-narration interrupts integration, and why striving to “do healing right” can actually pull people further away from their bodies and their truth.
Through personal reflection, lived experience, and grounded nervous-system insight, Verity shares:
How healing shifted from something intimate to something performative
Why embodiment and integration matter more than presentation
The difference between real regulation and spiritual perfection
How over-sharing can replace internal safety
And why healing doesn’t owe anyone proof
This episode is for anyone who feels the pressure to always respond consciously, to use the “right” language, or to be the example, even when they’re tired, messy, grieving, or human.
Because healing isn’t content.
It isn’t linear.
And some of the most honest work happens where no one ever sees.
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