Lindsay White talks to us about recognizing that people pleasing starts with our our self discovery, self talk, contentment.
It's not as easy as saying yes or no to someone or something. It takes work.
“I think, there's a lot of different surface levels. I think of people-pleasing as pulling back the layers. So on the top layer, we have that we feel guilty when we say no, or we pretend to laugh at a joke that isn't really funny. You know, there's definitely surface level people-pleasing that we want to avoid discomfort in other people. But I think as you peel back the layers, one of the deepest levels is self-betrayal. And it's when you're willing to do something for somebody else, for some thing, but betraying yourself in the midst of doing it.”- Lindsay White
Key takeaways:
Overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, which involves setting boundaries, making decisions authentically, and addressing the challenges associated with this behavioral pattern.
The significance of self-discovery in finding one's passion and curiosity as a driving force for change.
The fears and challenges individuals face when breaking free from people-pleasing habits, including societal expectations and the impact on mental health.
Following curiosity rather than passion is highlighted as a pivotal moment in the individual's journey towards life coaching.
The importance of teaching children about setting boundaries and making decisions from a place of love.
The pressure of societal expectations, particularly in areas such as career choices and personal life decisions.
The advice to start small, such as practicing setting boundaries with oneself, is given as a practical approach to initiate change.
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