'Acting' requires to consciously put yourself in the 'shoes' of others and see yourself in them and them in yourself.
You have to listen to them internally and find the same thing in yourself. When you consciously 'act' you do no blame but accept the others and let them to undergo a change of state or attitude without your saying anything.
You cannot change or improve the others if you do not know them in yourself, that is, if you have not passed through the same states.
