This week, with my scratchy “sultry sick-day voice” (as Monique called it), we dove into something I’ve been swirling in lately: decision-making. Not the big glamorous kind—marriage, jobs, cities—but the quieter ones that shape our internal landscape. The ones we postpone because they feel too tangled, too emotional, or too easy to get wrong.
And as we sat together, I realized how much of my own life has been shaped by the moments I avoided choosing. The four years I stayed in a relationship I couldn’t fully commit to. The way clarity finally met me the moment I decided to let go. And the way, on the other side of every choice, there’s this incredible lightness—like opening the door that was waiting for me the whole time.
Monique echoed it beautifully: decision-making isn’t just a moment. It’s a skill. A process. A relationship with your intuition. And sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is say out loud, “I decide.”
Key Themes + Takeaways
Not choosing is a choice, and often the most exhausting one.
Decision-making carries its own energy—once you choose, the next door opens.
Your body knows more than your brain when something isn’t aligned.
External noise (family, fear, group dynamics) can drown out your inner voice—but you can learn to hear yourself again
The six-part decision-making process: identify → gather information → consider alternatives → weigh logic + emotion → choose → review.
Forgiveness, release, and even miracles can unfold when you claim a decision you never thought you could make.
Our Favorite Quotes from This Episode
“Not deciding is a decision.”
“If it’s not a hell yes, it might be a hell no.”
“Limbo is the real purgatory—your heart can’t move if your feet are in two different timelines.”
“Get out of my way when my gut says yes.”
“You can’t drink from someone else’s map. You have to listen to your own inner knowing.”
Chapter Markers
00:00 — The swirl of indecision Mariah shares her personal story of staying in limbo for years.
04:09 — The energy of choosing Why a single decision can open the next right door.
05:51 — Monique’s split-second marriage decision Following intuition without hesitation.
07:55 — What are you not deciding? How mental clutter forms when decisions are avoided.
15:55 — The role of emotions, biases, and group dynamics Wedding planning, family influence, and how external voices cloud intuition.
27:44 — Fear vs. intuition Learning to distinguish survival instinct from inner knowing.
34:12 — Real-time processing Monique vulnerably works through a business decision she’s been avoiding.
41:41 — The six components of a healthy decision A practical framework anyone can use.
43:49 — The beauty of making mistakes Why imperfect choices teach us exactly what we need to know.
Your Turn — This Week’s Reflection
Where in your life are you sitting in limbo? And what would shift if you simply said, “I’m deciding now”—even if the next steps feel uncertain?
Write it down. Say it out loud. Let the universe know you’re ready.
-----
All Heart & Soul's Details:
Website: https://www.heartandsoulmastermind.com/
Join the mastermind program: https://www.heartandsoulmastermind.com/heartsoul
Say hi to Mariah on Instagram: @mariahmckechnie
Say hi to Monique on Instagram: @moniqueforcier
Leave a review on the Apple Podcast app and the Spotify app: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
MB0150TFLQGJ0TJ
