Why do some sensations hurt… and others heat you up?
In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore the intimate, complex relationship between pain and pleasure and why, for many people, the two are far more intertwined than we realise.
From the biology of endorphins and the psychology of trust, to kink dynamics, consent frameworks, and the fine art of reading your partner’s cues, this episode unpacks what really happens when we flirt with intensity.
Expect science, stories, giggles, and a few “oh wow” moments as we break down:
Why the brain sometimes confuses pain with arousal
How sensation play works (and why it can feel so good)
The difference between good pain, bad pain, and absolutely not
Emotional safety, aftercare, and conscious exploration
Real-world examples from both male and female perspectives
Whether you’re curious, experienced, or just love understanding human intimacy, this episode offers a grounded, playful, and surprisingly enlightening look into one of the most misunderstood aspects of kink.
Listen in — your body might already know the answer.
