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Alan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.
With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.
His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.
As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.
Website https://theloveengineer.rocks/
Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/
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Licensed Mental Health Counselor • Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist • Author • Founder, Advocate2Create
Dr. T brings over a decade of clinical and educational leadership to her work with individuals, couples and families navigating communication breakdowns, trauma, grief and anxiety. Through her practice Advocate2Create she developed the IAP Model, Intention → Action → Perception, what she calls the “Google Translate of communication,” equipping people to turn well-intentioned acts into understood and effective connection.
She’s the author of Why Are We Fighting? Actionable Strategies for Effective Communication
Website https://www.advocate2create.com/
Book https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DH8NF2VG
Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-patricia-timerman-barbosa-da-silva-302084156/
Summary
In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts engages with Dr. Patricia Timmerman, exploring her journey from aspiring medical doctor to mental health expert.
They delve into the complexities of suicide, trauma, and the intertwined nature of psychology and physiology. The conversation emphasises the importance of effective communication, vulnerability, and understanding in relationships, while also addressing cultural differences and the significance of emotional intelligence.
Dr. Timmerman shares actionable strategies for conflict resolution and the necessity of listening to one another to foster deeper connections.
Takeaways
Dr. Timmerman's journey reflects the importance of following one's passion.
Suicide prevention requires understanding the complexities of mental health.
Trauma can significantly impact future relationships if not processed.
Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts in relationships.
Vulnerability is a strength that fosters deeper connections.
Cultural differences can influence perceptions of time and trust in relationships.
Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in navigating relationships.
Listening actively can transform conversations and relationships.
Trust is built through understanding and transparency.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Dr. Patricia Timmerman
03:47 The Journey to Becoming a Doctor
06:34 Understanding Suicide and Mental Health
12:26 The Impact of Past Relationships on Present Dynamics
15:21 Communication and Misinterpretation in Relationships
18:13 The Role of Awareness in Relationships
20:40 Coping Mechanisms and Emotional Management
23:49 The Importance of Intentions in Communication
32:30 Perception and Communication in Relationships
35:00 Understanding Fight Languages
38:34 Effective Communication Strategies
42:18 The Importance of Venting vs. Solutions
45:50 Navigating Emotional Responses
48:46 Vulnerability as Strength
01:01:34 Actionable Strategies for Effective Communication
01:02:41 The Power of Listening in Relationships
