What if the question you’ve been asking — “Are they the one?” — is actually limiting your clarity?
In this episode of Relationship Talks with Vikkie, we flip the script and dive into better, wiser questions that lead to real peace in godly relationships.
⏱️ 00:00 – Introduction
Why this conversation matters. Letting go of pressure, confusion, and false expectations.
⏱️ 02:30 – Why “Are They the One?” Isn’t Always Helpful
• Where the question comes from
• Why it creates pressure and anxiety
• How it leads people to ignore red flags
⏱️ 07:00 – What to Ask Instead: “Does This Relationship Reflect God’s Character?”
• Spiritual fruit vs. feelings
• The difference between peace and emotional attachment
📖 Matthew 7:16
⏱️ 12:30 – God Doesn’t Always Drop “The One”—He Teaches Us to Choose
• Free will and divine wisdom
• Ruth & Boaz: no loud prophecy, just clear alignment
📖 Proverbs 19:21
⏱️ 17:00 – Questions That Bring Clarity (Instead of Confusion)
• Are we equally yoked?
• Do they push me toward Christ or away?
• Am I more myself or more anxious around them?
⏱️ 23:30 – What If You Thought They Were “The One”… But Now You’re Not Sure?
• Discerning between emotion and instruction
• How to surrender that person to God and find peace again
⏱️ 28:00 – Final Encouragement
• God’s peace is better than your fantasy
• It’s okay to ask better questions — clarity lives there
📖 Isaiah 55:8-9
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