No matter how much you achieve, there’s a quiet voice saying you’re not enough. In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew unpack the hidden roots of toxic shame, what it is, how it forms in childhood, and practical steps to begin healing today.
You’ll learn how toxic shame forms in childhood through criticism, emotional neglect, or the belief that love must be earned, and how it turns into patterns of self-judgment, people-pleasing, or burnout. This episode gives you practical tools to start healing toxic shame, reconnecting with your inner child, and building genuine self-compassion so you can finally feel enough, as you are.
00:00 – Intro: What Is Toxic Shame and Why It’s So Hard to Spot
01:20 – How Shame Becomes Part of Your Identity
02:45 – Childhood Roots: Where Shame Really Comes From
10:45 – The Two Faces of Shame: Anger vs Self-Destruction
13:40 – People Pleasing and Activism as Shame in Disguise
16:40 – How to Heal: From Shame to Self-Compassion
22:20 – How Subtle Shaming Shows Up in Parenting
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