Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Haley Jakobson, author of Old Enough, bisexual Dream Girl, and OCD Princess, to talk about friendship, therapy, OCD, and sex. Haley opens up about how her OCD has shaped her relationships, sexuality, creative life and how vulnerability and repair have transformed her friendships and intimacy.
We discuss:
The importance of friendship and why it can be even more transformative than romantic love
Learning to fight and repair conflict with friends instead of avoiding it
Friendship breakups, grief, and when to let go vs. when to repair
How attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant) affect friendships and conflict
The parallels between romantic and platonic relationship skills
Navigating OCD, intrusive thoughts, and relationship anxiety
Sexual shame, low libido, and reconnecting with desire during recovery
The impact of COVID on libido, self-pleasure, and intimacy
How OCD and anxiety affect sexual intimacy and self-image
Learning to find satisfaction without pressure to perform sexually
Haley’s upcoming novel Cave Girl and the story behind its title
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