In this episode of the Wellbeing for Mothers show, Dr. Dunni discusses the topic of expectations. She starts by acknowledging that there will always be people who will never be satisfied or grateful, no matter what you do. Dr. Dunni shares her personal experience of being a chronic people pleaser and how she made the decision to stop seeking approval from others. She emphasizes the importance of managing expectations, both the expectations others have of us and the expectations we have of others. Dr. Dunni also highlights the need for mothers to avoid projecting their own expectations onto their children and instead support them in pursuing their own passions and talents. Overall, this episode encourages listeners to prioritize their own well-being and not rely on external validation for happiness.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Some people will never be pleased or show gratitude, no matter what you do. It is important to recognize this and not bend over backwards to seek their approval.
As mothers, there is often a natural inclination to please and help others, but it is important to be aware when people consistently show their true colors through nastiness, meanness, and ingratitude.
It is necessary to set and prioritize your own expectations for yourself, rather than constantly trying to meet the expectations of others or society. Going against expectations can lead to personal growth and success.
Managing expectations is crucial for maintaining well-being. This includes managing the expectations others have of you and the expectations you have of others. By not expecting too much from others, you can avoid disappointment and allow them to pleasantly surprise you.
Parents should avoid projecting their own expectations onto their children. Instead, they should identify their children's strengths and interests and support them in pursuing their own goals and aspirations. It is important to let children be their own individuals and not live in the shadow of their parents' expectations.
BEST MOMENTS
"There are some times that people are constantly showing us who they are by their nastiness, by their meanness and by their ingratitude."
"We need to tap into that power that we've got. We need to help our children to tap into that power that they've got."
"Let people, give people the opportunity to surprise you in a positive way, of course."
"Parents, please do not project your expectations on your child such that it affects their well-being."
"Don't let the expectations of others be the source of your sorrow, or even your joy."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The burnout checklist- https://forms.gle/Re3E2FeEjuLEMvWJ6
The Working Mothers handbook: 8 keys - www.drdunni.com/handbook
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HOST BIO
Your host Dr Dunni is the award-winning mum empowerment coach, Family doctor, International speaker, Best-selling author of the book ‘Every Mum is a super mum’ and a mum herself who is passionate about health and wellbeing. She is proficient in using natural, scientific, and medical well-being concepts to explain in simple terms practical ways and strategies to avoid ill health and promote the overall well-being of body, mind, soul, and spirit. This is made available by the provision of online courses, books, coaching and regular events where well-being strategies and tactics are shared to enhance holistic well-being. Learn more athttps://www.drdunni.com
