Molly and I have been obsessed with the show Catfish lately, and it's likely because there is a ton of social neurosis to unpack. Guilt being one of those common feeling that comes up in a variety of forms. Sometimes it's guilt for getting caught, sometimes it's not realizing the effect you had, sometimes it's not pursuing what you want for fear of the reality being different than expectations. Sometimes it's about not realizing the level of control someone has in our lives.
Guilt is seemingly a part of our every day neurosis. We've accepted that feeling guilty is a normal part of life and it certainly is, but what isn't normal is continuing to feel guilty. Especially when we're feeling guilty over every day non-consequential things. There's likely something else to explore there. Are we actually guilty of something? Maybe our guilt is real but it's misplaced. Perhaps we're judging ourselves by the wrong standard. Perhaps we're simply not trusting our own ability to make the decisions we need to make.
One of the challenges I wanted to talk about on this episode is how we tend to brush off this feeling of guilt as something that "just happens" or something that shouldn't be addressed in a larger scale or timeline. Guilt can be a gateway drug to being controlled. Guilt can be what is keeping us from transition. Guilt can be holding us back from going for what we want. Guilt can be an excuse to avoid conflict and actually holding others back because you refuse to be honest.
As you can tell by my tone, this episode is a bit of a tough love episode. I'm here to challenge you to get out of autopilot and make the change you want to make. I'm here to encourage you but the rest is up to you.
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