In today’s episode, I’m sharing a self-love tarot spread to help you begin February with more tenderness, more truth, and more permission to be exactly where you are.
What We Explore in This Episode:
A self-love tarot spread you can repeat anytime, especially in February
How transformation can be a doorway for more love
Compassion as emotional honesty (not fantasy or self-betrayal)
The Self-Love Tarot SpreadThis spread comes from an article on HighTimes.com by Gabriela Herstik (published February 6, 2020) called “The High Priestess: Creating a Self Love Ritual for Valentine’s Day and Beyond.”
The article includes a full ritual experience (including optional cannabis), plus journaling prompts, movement, baths, candles, and other ways to build a whole self-love container.
In this episode, we focus on the tarot portion and treat it like a month-ahead self-love check-in for February.
I used a four-card layout (two cards on top, two on bottom):
Where can I welcome more love into my life?
How can I be more compassionate to myself?
How can I embrace my erotic nature and sexuality more?
How can I further embrace my magic?
For the spread, I’m using The Goddess of Love Tarot Deck. This deck is a devotional, erotic, divine-feminine portal in card form, and it feels perfect for February.
Return to this spread anytime you need grounding, reassurance, or a reminder that you’re allowed to grow gently.
The Cards Pulled
Card 1: Where can I welcome more love into my life?
Death (Kali / Chinnamasta)
Self-love takeaway:
Let something complete.
Bless the ending instead of resisting it.
Welcome love by allowing a new chapter to actually begin.
Card 2 - How can I be more compassionate to myself?
Crone of Cups (Reversed)
Self-love takeaway:
Listen to what your heart is actually saying.
Release the “it should be different by now” narrative.
Choose honesty over self-betrayal.
If your inner knowing is waving a flag, trust it.
Card 3 - How can I embrace my erotic nature and sexuality more?
Witch of Cups (Upright)
Self-love takeaway:
Lean into what turns you on and what softens you open.
Pleasure is a spiritual practice, not something to earn.
Let sensuality be playful, not performative.
Ideas for February: A bath, a massage, a slow skincare ritual, perfume, a cozy robe, a romantic playlist, a “take yourself on a date” night, anything that helps you feel safely inside your body.
Card 4 - How can I further embrace my magic?
Four of Pentacles (Upright)
This card connects magic to the material world. It points to the way the nervous system tightens when we fear there isn’t enough: love, money, safety, beauty, time, support.
Before expansion, the subconscious often contracts.
Self-love takeaway:
Your magic grows when you practice trust, even in small ways.
Make room for the upgrade.
Turn the mundane into ritual (lighting a candle, intentional mornings, devotional routines).
Believe before you have proof.
Journal prompt: How am I being asked to trust that I’m supported by the universe in my evolution?
💭 Today's Tarot Pull:
From The Desert Illuminations Tarot , I pulled the Eight of Daggers (Upright).
This card reinforces the message of the spread: you are not as trapped as the story says. The way forward may not be obvious, but agency returns the moment you question the narrative that you’re powerless.
Reflective prompts on this card:
Where do I believe I’m stuck, and what evidence actually supports that?
What small action would help me reclaim agency right now?
If I trusted myself more, what choice would I make next?
What belief is keeping me tied to the tracks?
Ways to Connect & Support
