Let's talk about the outdated dating rules we need to leave behind! From “the guy should always text first” to “playing hard to get actually works,” Christina unpacks where these tropes come from, why they’re problematic, and whether they deserve a spot in modern dating.
Are opposites really the key to lasting love? Does jealousy mean someone actually cares? Christina challenges these old-school ideas and offers a fresh, intentional approach to dating based on communication, mutual effort, and shared values.
Ready to stop playing games and start dating with purpose? Tune in for a reality check on the rules that are keeping you stuck in dating déjà vu.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
01:12 The most overrated and toxic dating rules
01:35 The guy should always text first
02:03 Where this rule comes from
02:41 Why this rule is problematic
03:29 Taking control of your dating life
04:34 Why people still defend this rule
05:11 Verdict: Cancel it – mutual effort matters
05:42 Playing hard to get works
07:56 The psychology behind this strategy
08:38 Why playing hard to get attracts the wrong people
09:22 The difference between pacing and playing games
10:04 Verdict: Modify it – flirting is fine, games are not
10:32 Opposites attract
11:15 How movies and pop culture reinforce this trope
12:14 The difference between chemistry and compatibility
13:46 Why shared values matter more than differences
13:58 Verdict: Modify it – opposites can attract, but compatibility keeps you together
14:39 If they’re not jealous, they don’t care
15:13 How jealousy is mistaken for passion
16:14 The difference between insecurity and love1
7:25 Personal story on handling jealousy in dating
17:50 Verdict: Cancel it – security is what we want
18:11 Final takeaways – the dating rules to cancel and modify
18:30 What actually works in modern dating
18:50 Where to follow and work with Christina
19:05 Outro
