🎧 CONTROL: Are We Misusing This Word? (Part 1) | The Wrong Words Podcast
“Are we really in control… or just afraid to surrender?”
In Part 1 of this deeply layered episode, hosts Oliver Marcelle and Luvon Dungee crack open one of the most misunderstood—and most misapplied—words in our vocabulary: Control.
It’s a word that shows up in arguments, in relationships, at work, in faith, and even in how we talk to ourselves. But are we using it right? Or are we weaponizing it against things we don’t fully understand?
đź’¬ In this episode, we explore:
Why control often shows up in relationships as a mask for fear or ego
How self-control might actually be the only real control we ever have
Why surrender isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom
The slippery slope between preference and dominance: “I prefer” vs. “I forbid”
What it really means when someone says, “They’re trying to control me”
How culture, trauma, and pride warp the purpose of control
A surprising take on walking your dog—and how they might actually be walking you
đź“– We also unpack:
Definitions from Dictionary.com, Merriam-Webster, and Oxford
The etymology: Latin contrarotulus, French contre-rôle (“to check, verify, regulate”)
Scriptural insight from Galatians 5:23 — “self-control” as a fruit of the Spirit
Hebrew, Greek, and Aramaic roots showing control as dominion and inner rule
🎙️ Standout moments:
Luvon’s bold reframe: “Nothing can control you… unless you can’t control you.”
Oliver’s reflection on restraint during conflict and how we misuse authority in relationships
The powerful call to stop mislabeling preference as control—and start owning our choices
The mic-drop analogy: surrendering during a slide on ice teaches us how to regain control
👥 What You’ll Walk Away With:
A redefinition of control that centers on you, not others
Fresh clarity on what it means to surrender with strength
Language that gives power back to your self, not your circumstances
A reminder that emotional intelligence often starts with restraint
đź“Š POLL QUESTION:
Which area of your life challenges your self-control the most?
A) Relationships
B) Emotions
C) Speech
D) Habits
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