🎧 PART 3 (FINAL) — PROCESS | The Wrong Words Podcast
Refinement, growth, transformation — are they parts of a process or the proof of an agreement kept? In the final installment Oliver and Luon close the Process series by digging into what it takes to go from rough stone to diamond: the fires, the friction, the choices to stay the course (or toss the agreement). They call out where we overcomplicate process, why “growing pains” are real (but not the point), and how failing to give ourselves grace keeps us stuck.
đź§ In this episode we explore:
Refinement vs. ritual: why breaking, burning, and friction are necessary to reveal the diamond
Growth vs. pain — are the aches part of growth or the actions that lead to it?
Agreement as the anchor: when to repair a series of actions and when an action truly breaks the agreement
Types of processes (chemical, biological, physical, psychosocial) — and how Western definitions often skew toward harm
📚 We unpack:
The difference between an internal agreement (who you are) and external processes (what happens to you)
Why memory and fear make people abandon agreements at the first hard step (quits day / “divorce month” examples)
“Grace stuck”: how failing to give ourselves room to fail stalls development and transformation
đź’Ą Key moments include:
The diamond/gold metaphors: refinement requires fire and faithful agreement with the process
The ex-addict’s testimony — honoring an agreement as the spark for total life change
Why viruses, bacteria, and other “processes” simply follow agreements — and what humans can learn from that clarity
The call to make “sticking to agreements” a standard, not a convenience
🛠️ You’ll walk away with:
A clearer distinction between habit, action, and the agreement that makes real progress possible
Practical language to renegotiate or repair agreements instead of throwing them away at the first setback
A prompt to give yourself calibrated grace — enough to learn from failure, not to stay stuck in it
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📊 POLL QUESTION:
Which most helps you stick to a process?
A) Clear agreement
B) Daily actions
C) Both equally
D) Unsure
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