🎧 PART 1 — RESPECT: Who’s Responsible for the Feeling? | The Wrong Words Podcast
Is respect something you receive or something you carry? In Part 1 of our Respect two-parter, Oliver Marcelle and Luvon Dungee pry open one of the most used—and most misunderstood—words in everyday life. From relationship battles to parenting, money and culture, they challenge the habit of treating respect as an external reward and invite you to consider a radical flip: respect lives first in you.
đź§ In this episode, we explore:
Why dictionary definitions make respect an outside judgment—and why that’s only half the picture
Self-respect as a lived standard (not a performance or a mask)
How emotions get attached to “disrespect” and why that muddies the issue
Respect vs. boundaries vs. vulnerability: why transparent > “vulnerable” when it comes to strength and trust
📚 We unpack:
Dictionary takes (esteem, admiration) vs. origin words (Latin / Old French) that point inward
How culture trains us to expect respect from status or performance—and the problems that causes
Relationship examples: honoring a shared goal (like saving for a house) as mutual respect
The energy rule: “If you don’t pick it up, it won’t get in you” — and how that changes responses
đź’Ą Key moments include:
Luvon: “Respect is selfish — it starts with you.”
Oliver: respect-as-mask vs. respect-as-standard (what happens when the lights go off?)
The couple-savings analogy: one external aim that keeps two people aligned through conflict
A memorable rule: don’t pick up other people’s attitudes
🛠️ You’ll walk away with:
A clearer way to tell whether you were actually disrespected or just felt disrespected
Language to reframe heated moments into standards-based conversations (less drama, more clarity)
Tools to build consistent self-respect that doesn’t rely on external validation
Prompts to test whether your response is emotional pickup or deliberate action
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📊 POLL QUESTION: When you hear respect, which pops up first?
A) Self-Respect
B) Earned Admiration
C) Boundaries
D) Transparency
👇 Vote and tell us: did this episode shift how you think about respect?
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