Clay Speakman, founder of EPIC Grit Club, shares his journey of finding grit and embracing the challenges of fatherhood. Clay emphasizes the importance of overcoming victimhood and taking control of one's own story. He also shares insights on cultivating grit in children and the power of struggling together as a family.
He encourages parents to have conversations with their children about growth and authenticity. Clay emphasizes the need to prioritize the growth, health, and safety of children over happiness and the importance of setting a vision for the future. Lastly, he highlights the power of doing hard things on purpose and the role of grit in personal and professional success.
Some highlights from our call:
“I spent my first 10 years as a dad running away from the chaos, the discomfort, and the frustrating things that I didn't know how to deal with. I define grit as the ability to do hard things on purpose — and the only way you grow it is by doing things that exceed your current capability.” -Clay Speakman
Additional key insights:
- Avoid victimhood.
- Build grit by doing hard tasks.
- Teach the value of struggle and failure.
- Strengthen family resilience together.
- Encourage open conversations on growth.
- Prioritize children's growth and safety over happiness.
- Strengthen bonds through meals and talks.
- Set and follow a vision for success.
And much more!
Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
01:00 Fatherhood & Business
04:07 Childhood & Adventure
06:02 Finding Grit & Overcoming Limits
07:28 Embracing Fatherhood
09:22 Hero of Your Story
10:47 Overcoming Victimhood
11:42 Wounded Warriors Inspiration
13:15 Parental Influence
14:18 Building Internal Grit
15:47 'Now What?' Importance
19:58 Cultivating Children's Grit
22:23 Family Struggles
24:08 Grit Family Events
25:04 Young Marriage
27:21 Career to Tech Transition
29:18 Tech for Specialized Communities
32:11 Tech Impact on Family
35:05 Authenticity & Connection
38:32 Being Authentic
39:18 Conversations on Growth
39:32 The Magical Age
40:00 Paradigm Shift
40:28 Understanding & Compassion
40:58 Parenting Hardships
41:26 Being Present
41:53 Waiting for Results
42:16 Vulnerability & Mistakes
43:14 Learning Together
44:13 Mission First
44:41 Family Meals Value
45:09 Avoid Over-Scheduling
45:36 Family Time Importance
46:12 Loved vs. Liked
46:38 Friend vs. Parent
47:04 Success Measure
47:32 Apologizing & Learning
48:01 Intentional Communication
48:41 Family Time & Space
50:15 Healthy Relationships
50:45 Passion & Family
51:29 Chasing Shiny Things
52:00 Start with End in...
