In this episode, Dan explores the third pillar of mental fitness — self-command — and how it integrates with the biblical call to “renew your mind.” Christian fathers often feel the gap between who they want to be and how they actually show up under pressure. Dan explains why willpower alone isn’t enough and how spiritual + neurological “reps” retrain your responses, helping you lead from the Spirit instead of stress.
Through scripture, practical tools, and a powerful real-life coaching story, Dan shows how simple 10-second shifts can transform your tone, presence, and connection with your family. Discover how to take every thought captive, reset your mind in the moment, and build a legacy of calm, Christ-centered leadership one intentional breath at a time.
00:00 — Welcome and mission of the Positive Legacy Podcast
01:00 — Why self-command matters for Christian fathers
02:00 — What self-command is vs. what it’s not
03:15 — Willpower vs. transformation: why daily reps matter
04:10 — Biblical foundation: Romans 12:2 & 2 Corinthians 10:5
06:00 — How your thought patterns shape your fatherhood and legacy
07:00 — Step 1: Recognize when you’re triggered (blameless discernment)
09:00 — Step 2: Use spiritual + physical resets (PQ reps / breath prayers)
12:00 — Step 3: Replace reactivity with Christlike intentionality
14:00 — Coaching story: Todd and the power of 10-second shifts
17:00 — Practical applications for dads in everyday moments
19:00 — Weekly challenge: 3 daily reminders + PQ reps
21:00 — Journaling prompts and training your brain to see God
23:00 — Encouragement: Grace fuels growth, not shame
24:00 — CTAs: Masterclass invitation + Positive Legacy Academy
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