Merry Christmas!!
Are you exhausted from always being the “reliable one” — the friend, daughter, partner, or church member who says yes even when you’re breaking inside?
In this episode of Elisha’s Space, counselor and host Elisha shares one simple, powerful phrase you can start using today to interrupt people‑pleasing without becoming cold, harsh, or selfish:
“I care about you, and I can’t do that for you.”
Together, we unpack why saying “no” feels so dangerous in your body, how people‑pleasing is often tied to trauma, anxiety, and fear of abandonment, and how this one phrase can help you honor both your compassion and your limits.
You’ll learn:
• Why your nervous system defaults to “yes” (even when you don’t want to)
• How to say “no” without over‑explaining, apologizing, or panicking
• Practical examples for friends, family, work, church, and relationships
• How to handle the guilt that shows up after you finally set a boundary
• A gentle, faith‑honoring perspective on service, limits, and being made in the image of God
This episode is especially for you if:
• You feel selfish any time you consider saying “no”
• You’re resentful and tired, but still keep over‑giving
• You grew up in chaos, criticism, or emotional neglect
• You’ve been taught that “good” women always sacrifice themselves
Take a breath. You’re not broken. You’re learning a new way to exist in relationships without abandoning yourself.
Listen in, write the phrase down, and try it once this week in a real conversation.
If this episode helps you, share it with a fellow people‑pleaser, and follow the show for more trauma‑informed, faith‑friendly conversations about healing, anxiety, and boundaries.
You’re allowed to care about others without disappearing yourself. 💛
