In this episode of Powerful on Purpose, host Leslie Capps sits down with somatic, trauma-informed relationship coach, speaker, and author Darla Ridilla to unpack what it truly means to stop shrinking yourself in relationships and start showing up as your full, unfiltered self. Darla shares her own journey from repeated narcissistic abuse to radical self-recognition — and the moment she realized she wasn’t “too much,” she was just accepting too little.
This conversation goes deep into childhood patterns, trauma stored in the body, why high-achieving women often tolerate dysfunctional relationships, and how somatic work helps you release the shame, tightness, and emotional patterns that talk therapy alone can’t touch. Darla breaks down how to trust your inner wisdom, set boundaries that honor you, and stop performing for validation that was never yours to earn.
If you’ve ever felt “too emotional,” “too intense,” or like your outside success doesn’t match your inside chaos, this episode will feel like truth serum. Darla’s grounded guidance shows women how to reclaim power, choose healthier connections, and finally say, “I am not too much — I’ve just been accepting too little.
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⭐ Chapters
00:00 – Meet somatic coach Darla Ridilla
01:56 – Breaking the cycle of narcissistic relationships
03:21 – The awakening: self-relationship as the foundation
05:12 – “You’re not too much—just accepting too little”
06:37 – Romantic pain, triggers & early wounds
08:36 – Moving from trauma to transformation
12:28 – Somatics made simple: healing through the body
20:29 – Final wisdom & permission to grow
