In the latest episode of the Dear Black Gay Men Podcast, Ja9 the Gentleman dives deep into the conversation currently taking over the timeline: the IAmZoie situation. As videos resurface allegedly showing the prominent creator in inappropriate exchanges with underage men, our community is divided on what accountability actually looks like.
Power, Clout, and the “Apology Tango”
With over 6 million followers, Zoie is a massive figure in mainstream spaces, from Wild ‘N Out to global stages. But as a Black gay man, does he have a responsibility to the community that “held him up” before he crossed over?
The chat didn’t hold back. Many listeners expressed that:
* Forced accountability is problematic: True change should be proactive, not a reaction to public pressure once “the girls set your feet on fire”.
* The Power Dynamics: Followers are currency. Powerful creators can manipulate those with less clout who are just “down for the come-up”.
* Right is Right: Regardless of the year (2018) or the context, sexualizing minors is never a gray area.
Are There Real Consequences?
Jai questions if “Internet fame” is a shield. Even if Zoie loses half his followers, he still has more reach than most of his peers. Will he stay “booked and busy” while the community forgets in six months?
What’s Coming Up Next?
We aren’t stopping here. Make sure to tune in for our upcoming episodes:
* Wednesday: Discussing the passing of Girl Lala and the social media backlash surrounding her memorial.
* Thursday: A full-circle moment with producer Nathan Hale Williams (Dirty Laundry) and Marcus Wilson to discuss Black gay representation in media.
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