Hi there,
We are into the penultimate episode of In The Business of Healthy Masculinity in it;s current format, I do hope you have been getting some value over the past 20+ weeks?
Let me introduce you to the wonderful Trina Casey:
Trina Casey is an international educator, Mind, Body, and Spirit Alignment Coach, and author who has spent over two decades guiding people toward wholeness and conscious living.
Having lived and taught globally, to connect with nodes of consciousness allows Trina truly innerstand her clients and co-creators on a frequency level leading to Temet Nosce, Know Thyself.
Trina is the creator of This Real Life Books, a groundbreaking series of trauma-informed children’s stories, and host of the EQaboveIQ podcast, where she unpacks emotional intelligence as a key to purpose-driven life. Through her mentorship, she empowers clients to deprogram societal conditioning, reconnect with their intrinsic worth, and step into authentic alignment.
Her latest book, Reclaiming Humanity: A Blueprint for Collective Healing and Resistance, calls readers to challenge oppressive systems and awaken to their true power.
You can reach Trina on the following platforms:
Website - https://thisreallifebooks.com/
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/thisreallifebooks
Let’s dive into this juicy conversation!
Observe, don't absorb
“I can observe without absorbing. It's okay to be an observer, but the goal of the parasitic class is to get you to absorb, absorb ideals, absorb fallacies, and just divide yourself.” - Trina Casey
How does Trina’s insight land with you?
For me personally, it has taken years of inner work to unlearn my savourism pattern, to understand my right to comfort pattern that I have been conditioned with, that the world is not binary etc
As I have unlearned that conditioning, my capacity to observe and not just absorb has expanded. It is very hard, personally and within a work context, to hold so much complexity in our minds and souls, without release valves. Remember Paul Jameson’s valve and widget metaphors from episode #14 of this platform.
In what ways are you able to observe without being absorbed in your own life today? What benefits could you and those around you gain if you could observe more often? Let us know in the comments.
Benefit just me and/or we?
“I would say tap into your inner knowing, your inner understanding, and your inner power and say, okay, does me behaving this way benefit the whole or does it benefit me? Because usually it's usually a deep insecurity that if i give up some “power” to a woman then i'm not a man, but to me. you lose nothing and you gain everything once you connect with the divine feminine.” - Trina Casey
This message from Trina is GOLD! Let me bring this to life for you from my own lived experience.
Over the past decade I have worked at the same company and doing the same job, yet outside of that day job, I have grown, shed, cried, evolved, met a wonderfully diverse global community of human beings, and guest what? 90% + of that journey has been with women.
Not because I designed it that way, it is just a symptom of the fact that we men too rarely have the safe spaces to even think, let alone feel, and that can often reinforce the unhealthy behaviours that we have explored so much on this platform.
Inside of myself, my capacity to learn, unlearn, and observe and not just absorb has expanded so many times over, yet on the outside, the world looks pretty similar. Same job, same amazing wife, same family etc
If you are not ‘going inside’ of yourself; reviewing your values, your job role, who you spend your time with, who energises you, who drains you, you are likely a passenger in your own life, and not in the driving seat.
Be honest with yourself. Are you the driver or the passenger of your own life right now?
If you are the passenger, please reach out to Trina or myself as we need to get you into the driving seat.
The etymology of 'business'
“The whole point of hustling and bustling in busyness is to be anxious. To be taken away from self. That's the point. So if I had all the time and resources I needed, I would probably be a little bit more introspective. How's my body feel? What's this? What's that? Curiosity would be king.” - Trina Casey
This blew my brain! I always love how Trina focuses on the etymology or origin of words, but I never knew the origins of the word ‘business’ and it makes a lot of sense.
How did learning the etymology of the word business land with you? What did it spark, what did it maybe even trigger?
Even if your job role or work feels meaningful, if we look on an interconnected, systemic level, does it reinforce this etymology. Why? Because business as we do it today is predicated on harm. Global supply chains that enclose resource and labour for relative worker scraps whilst the majority gets syphoned off to big corporations and the global financial market.
Additionally global engagement stats from Gallup stubbornly stuck at just 21% - that’s 79% of people going through the motions of ‘work,’ which surely reinforces Trina’s insight and research into the etymology of word ‘business’?
Life doesn’t have to look bad on the outside - mine doesn’t - to be honest about this reality.
So what word, what energy do we need to change to reimagine work and community to less anxious, less harm, and less disembodied ways? What are you thinking and what are your thoughts?
The 'Ponzi scheme' of Western financial services
“And look what can happen in seventy two hours. Fifteen percent of twenty years' worth of investment was wiped out because of one (maybe two!) human beings's desire to go to war.” - Garry Turner
At the time of sharing this conversation with Trina, my pension funds are a further 2% lower as the US-Israel war on Iran continues !
If there was ever a time for people to realise and understand the interconnectedness of our systems and lives in 2026, this is it. The fact that literally a couple of human beings, aided and abetted by systems of preferential governance, can cause such havoc all around the world just makes this so clear to see.
Indeed I saw an amazing video on LinkedIn that is SO valuable to watch in full. I share it here in case of value to you:
https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7441420839788396544/
What this situation provoked within me is something that Hannah Litt and I are discussing often, which is how do we get to a palace of valuing different things not just based on the US dollar. How do we set up systems for mutual exchange (food, skills etc) that are beyond reliance on a few peoples whims?
I would love to hear your thoughts and ideas around how we can organise and exchange differently towards more equal and healthy futures? Do you have any examples or know of any that are working effectively today?
The battle to maintain healthy energetic balance
"Almost three years ago, I started seeing a divide, a purposeful push, especially with the red pill content. The battle between the masculine and the feminine, women are this, men are that. And though some of this could be Interpreted as true, I want to look at it from a different perspective in that energetically and spiritually, we have both frequencies of masculine and feminine energy in us.” - Trina Casey
Whether we look at business, politics, or our local communities. Who benefits from us being divided? Not you, Trina, and me!
The conscious balancing and dialling up/down of BOTH our masculine and feminine traits/energies has been one of the most consistent and important insights of these healthy masculinity conversations, and Trina spotlights this powerfully again.
There is no reason whatsoever for men and women to be competing, not when coming from a place of equality and health.
To what extent are you consciously balancing your machine and feminine energies today? Could you benefit from a safe space and guidance to do so more effectively for you and those around you?
Until next time
We hope that you join us in this exploration, and please do feed back and share with your networks if you are getting value.
Finally, if any of the above questions have ignited curiosity within you, I am hereif you are looking for a 1-1 Thinking Partner that can be in your corner by voice note, virtually, and in-person, I have found 5 x 60 minutes calls + unlimited voice note communication to work the best.
If you are ready to embrace the journey towards a healthier relationship with yourself and those around you, and the goodness that brings, at home and at work, drop me a line at garry.turner@radicality.co.uk.
Episode #25 of the podcast, the final in its current iteration, will be published next Mon 6th April 2026 with disaster scientist and brilliant mind Maciej Pawlik.
Here is a clip to whet your appetite in advance:
I am always interested in your reflections, challenges, and anything else that piques your curiosity with these updates.
Wishing you a safe, connected week ahead.
With love
Garry Turner
garry.turner@radicality.co.uk
+44 7928 979358
