#79 (ENG): Alien play in the bedroom. How to get weird, wild & wonderfully curious.
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So, here’s a fun truth about humans: give us a strange-looking toy, a slightly odd texture, or a fantasy that lets us step out of our everyday bodies, and suddenly we’re all willing to explore the unknown like Mulder sprinting after a suspicious glow in the woods.
Alien play isn’t about green body paint (unless you’re into that), nor do you need encyclopaedic knowledge of nebulae. It’s about curiosity. It’s about letting yourself touch, speak, and play differently. It’s about lifting the pressure to “perform” and instead asking, What would happen if we approached each other like we’ve never met a human before?
It can be soft and exploratory, silly and giggly, or full of consensual power dynamics: “You will remain still for examination, human.” It can be a single line whispered during sex or a full scene with sensory scanning, strange toys, and non-verbal communication. Tentacle fantasies? Absolutely valid. Scientists examining mysterious specimens? Love it. Aliens with unusual biological quirks? Delicious.
For many people, alien play is also a wonderfully inclusive way to experience desire. Aliens don’t come with preconceived ideas about bodies. They don’t expect genitals to look or behave a certain way. They don’t judge. They explore. And that makes the fantasy incredibly liberating for trans lovers, disabled partners, neurodivergent bodies, shy folks... Honestly? Anyone who wants to feel desired exactly as they are.
Whether you want something as simple as adding a curious “What does this bit do?” to your next intimate moment, or you’re ready to strap in for a multi-tentacled mission, the beauty of alien play is that there’s no right way to do it. Just curiosity, imagination, and consent guiding you through the stars.
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