In this solo episode of 'I Would Like to Have a Conversation,' the host dives into a personal conversation inspired by a dad's social media post about his struggles with motivation and joy in life.
The episode outlines practical steps to reclaim happiness and purpose, including setting a personal 'North Star,' reassessing priorities, and building new habits for transformation.
Discover how to map out the ideal day, develop a hero mindset, and use frameworks like the facilitation and transformation hierarchies to support ongoing personal growth.
The host shares personal experiences and invites listeners to rewrite their life's narrative for a more fulfilling journey.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:12 Discussing a Social Media Post
01:19 Reading and Analysing the Post
04:04 Personal Reflections and Advice
06:01 Creating a North Star and Setting Goals
11:35 Building the Hero and Shadow Self
15:25 Collecting Proof and Transformation Hierarchy
28:21 Final Thoughts and Coaching Opportunities
Introduction
Hey everyone, welcome back! I recently had a rather unconventional yet insightful episode—you could say I had a conversation with myself.
Although this might seem weird, it was something I felt driven to do.
In this episode, I stumbled upon a heartfelt post from a father on social media who shared his struggles candidly.
His words resonated deeply with me, prompting a reflection on my own experiences.
Here's how I navigated similar challenges and the frameworks I use to turn life's low points into opportunities for growth.
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Encountering the Storm
The father from the post found himself in a place many can relate to: lost, frustrated, and disconnected from the joys of life.
He expressed feelings of apathy towards work, home, and family—a sentiment that I have personally grappled with as well.
What stood out was his awareness, yet helplessness, in the face of his emotions.
This powerful post stirred up my desire to address the often silent struggles many face, and to share actionable steps towards reclaiming one's life.
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The Framework for Transformation
1. Setting Your North Star
Mapping out a future goal, or a “North Star,” is imperative. It's about discovering what you want to achieve and having something to strive for, whether it's health, relationships, or personal goals.
2. Recapture and Reallocate
This involves assessing your resources—time, money, and attention—and redirecting them towards your North Star. It's about identifying what you can repurpose towards your goals. My journey included cutting unnecessary expenses and re-evaluating my daily schedule to incorporate things that aligned with my goals.
3. Defining Your Perfect Average Day
Imagine what an ideal day, not a fantasy one but one you could sustain daily, looks like. This process helps in structuring a life you find fulfilling on a regular basis.
4. Building the Hero and Shadow Selves
We all have a “shadow” side—traits we're not proud of—which we must identify and manage. I named mine to help acknowledge and detach from it. Building your “hero” self involves crafting a narrative of the person you aspire to be, with defined traits and actions.
5. Collecting Proof and Rewriting Your Story
To solidify change, gather evidence of your daily victories and acts of gratitude. This practice reshapes our mental narrative, affirming the positive changes we seek. It is crucial to feel joy and become the hero of your own story—transforming old, unfulfilling scripts into aspirational narratives.
6. Enhancing Resilience with Facilitation and Transformation Hierarchies
Utilise various strategies—whether you're at your lowest (“red light” days) or feeling on top of the world (“green light” days)—to ensure continuous progress. This can involve simplifying tasks during challenging times to remain consistent in your journey towards transformation.
7. Embracing and Teaching Your Journey
Once you find balance and consistency, the final stages involve adding fun and excitement into your routine, and ultimately, teaching others. Teaching solidifies your learning and growth, while also fulfilling the role of spreading positivity and knowledge.
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Conclusion
I shared these frameworks to offer a beacon of hope and guidance for those feeling lost or overwhelmed.
It's a journey I've walked and continue to navigate.
If you're interested in rewiring your story and learning these frameworks through coaching or need support on your journey, please reach out.
Whether through one-on-one sessions or group settings, these tools have proven invaluable, helping me and others rediscover joy and fulfilment in life's everyday challenges.
Thanks for reading, and remember—a brighter, more fulfilled version of you is entirely within reach.
Let's embark on this transformative journey together.
