In this episode, I sit down with Adaku Mbagwu, a firstborn daughter specialist, to dive deep into the unique challenges and healing journeys of eldest daughters.
We talk about what it means to be an eldest daughter, the pressures and unspoken expectations we carry, and how those roles shape our identities, boundaries, and relationships.
If you’ve ever felt like the family fixer or struggled to put yourself first, this episode is for you.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction & What’s in This Episode00:39 - Meet Adaku Mbagwu: Firstborn Daughter Specialist02:08 - Adaku’s Eldest Daughter Story & Early Responsibilities06:13 - Hitting Rock Bottom: Burnout and Breaking Free10:16 - Recognizing Eldest Daughter Syndrome13:09 - The Power of Boundaries & Re-learning Self Care17:37 - The Trap of Perpetual Caretaking21:01 - Practical Ways to Fill Your Cup24:40 - Healthy Coping vs. Negative Patterns28:29 - The Physical Impact: Back Pain and Suppressed Emotions33:03 - Building Support and Safe Friendships36:32 - How to Know if You Have Eldest Daughter Syndrome38:19 - Signs, Symptoms & How They Show Up42:33 - Mother-Daughter Relationships: Breaking Generational Patterns51:52 - Setting Boundaries Without Justification57:19 - Grieving the Old Self & Moving Forward59:29 - About the Healed Hero Community & Where to Find Adaku1:00:31 - Closing Thoughts & Final Encouragement
If you’ve ever felt alone in your experience, this episode will help you see yourself in a new light and give you practical tools for your healing journey. 💜
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Find Adaku:
Grab her free burnout guide on her website: https://www.healedhero.comInstagram & LinkedIn: @adakumbagwu
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