If you pressed pause on putting everyone before yourself, what would actually happen? This is the question anchoring today’s episode with our special guest, leadership coach and weaver, Patty Dayleg.
As women, especially women of color, many of us internalize that our worth is measured by how much we give, do, and sacrifice. But what if that legacy of self-neglect stops with us? What if you decided to give yourself the best plate at the table instead of always handing it off to someone else?
Inside This Episode:
* Patty shares her deeply personal burnout story and how never-ending giving (in both career and community, especially during crisis) left her depleted. She describes the rock-bottom moment when her own needs burst through in ways she couldn’t ignore.
* We unpack the resistance and even the barriers society puts in place when we try to advocate for our own well-being, and how asking for support is often met with hoops to jump rather than open arms.
* Together, we ask: What if you chose yourself without apology? We suggest tangible ways to start: taking the best for yourself, giving yourself permission to rest, and seeking joy—every single day.
* We break apart the myth that prioritizing your wellbeing means abandoning those you care for. Instead, we show how self-devotion fuels deeper, more abundant giving (without resentment or depletion!).
* The power of pause: Re-centering can look like a yoga retreat, a solo walk, or simply a moment of silence. It’s about giving yourself what you need before life forces you to. So your overflow can serve family, work, and community from a place of wholeness.
If you stopped putting everyone before yourself, you’d:
* Show up more present and powerful.
* Experience less resentment, more authentic connection.
* Pass on a legacy of self-worth to future generations.
* Become a true “weaver” in your world—helping others from the strength of your own healing, rather than surviving on fumes.
Connect with Patty:
Check out her podcast “What We Made Possible”, find her on Instagram @pattymalaya, on LinkedIn, or on her website malayasolutions.com (and don’t miss her wisdom on intergenerational healing).
This episode is an invitation: Stop making yourself and your well-being the last thing on the list. Ask yourself, daily: What if I chose me, right now? The answers and breakthroughs might change everything.
Comment below with your thoughts (and what happens when you start putting yourself first!). Share this with the women in your life who need the reminder.
To bliss, boundaries, and the courage to choose YOU first,
Samantha Gregory 🌱
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