Written 9/27/2025.
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I went on a date Friday night, and she asked me about getting together with friends. She works hard during the week, then meets with friends over the weekend to eat dinner do activities, and watch the sun set.
I mumbled through my answer, talking about that I really didn’t do dinner, but had breakfast, coffee, and lunch meetings during the week.
Am I really that pathetic about my life that I don’t have friends that I get together with? It took me a day or two to figure out what was going on with me and I think I’ve figured it out.
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First, my life is pretty different from many people’s lives. I live in a different world full of silence and thinking and creative ideas. Just getting up and doing stuff isn’t what I do.
Second, I live my life in a reverse manner. I meet people during the week and keep weekends for myself to recharge and putter around the house.
Let me explain.
First. I have good friends who don’t live close to me, so we rarely get together. Some friends I communicate with weekly or bi-weekly. Some only during certain times of the year (e.g. events or holidays).
I do have friends who are closer. One I speak to once or twice each week, and we may get together every couple of months. Another we get together every other week for breakfast or coffee. Then I have a klatch of professional acquaintances where we chat about our personal lives/help each other when we are at networking events. I sometimes check in with them as they tend to also be my wing women/men when it comes to my love life.
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When it comes to dates, I pass what I’m thinking of doing on the date by these wing women/men. They respond with a pained expression and a “oh, no that won’t do” reply. Then give suggestions that may actually work.
Weekends I feel are more sacred. Many times, I’ve met my people quota for the week, so really don’t want to see anyone for a while (dancing is the exception). I cook and prep meals for the week, do light cleaning, and work in and outside of the house (e.g. mowing the lawn, cleaning inside, etc). I also wake up, grab a cup of coffee, sit in my favorite spot and read and think. This is productive as it allows me to come up with ideas for these posts and for other projects I’m working on. Oh, and if the weather is nice, I go for a long ride on my motorcycle.
I guess I live more of an introvert’s life, even though I’ve been an extrovert my whole life. Since doing more writing and exploring my inner self, I’ve taken more time to be with just myself.
One question I do ask myself is whether this will change much once I find my forever partner and the answer is probably not as she’d be similar in what she does. How cool would it be to snuggle together, each reading a book and enjoying each other’s company. Maybe snuggling on the couch/bed and watching a movie together. That sounds heavenly to me.
So, in short, I actually like the way I’ve designed my life. Can it be better? Of course, but I’m okay with it for the time being.
When you think about your life, how do you feel?
Let me know in the comments.
Blessings to you,
Robert
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