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We Are the Furlings: Alignment, Inner Knowing, and Liberation with Leah
TThere are some friendships that don’t just witness your evolution — they midwife it.
Today’s Friday with Friends on Let’s Have the Conversation was one of those sacred full-circle moments. I brought my framly, Leah, back on the podcast — my neighborhood witch, my birth-chart-on-speed-dial, my “you’re not allowed to shrink anymore” person.
If you’ve ever read my work and thought, “How is this so on time? How is this so precise?” — I want you to understand something very clearly:
I do not arrive here by accident.I arrive here because I am held.Spiritually. Cosmically. In community.
And Leah has been one of the most integral people holding me through that becoming.
Today’s conversation was all about alignment as a liberation practice, how tools like astrology, human design, and Gene Keys can support decolonization, and what it actually looks like to work with your own inner knowing — especially when the world feels like it’s on fire.
We also accidentally created the Furling Club, but we’ll get there. Today’s Friday with Friends is about the kind of relationship that grows, evolves, and shifts with you. It’s about faith — not the institutional kind, but the kind that sits in your bones.It’s about inner knowing — the wisdom empire taught you to distrust.And it’s about FRAMily — the people who help you return to who you were before supremacy culture tried to shape you.
This is a story about how we find our way back to ourselves.
Why This Piece, Why Now
We’re in the Season of Self, which asks us to slow down, listen inward, and excavate the truths we buried to survive. It’s winter — the season of descent, of rooting, of returning to what lives underground.
And we’re also in the middle of I Want to Wish You an Eschatological Christmas, my annual reckoning with the myths empire handed us and the realities those myths were designed to obscure.
So this moment with Leah isn’t random timing — it’s alignment.
Because this work is not about stripping anyone’s spirituality.It’s about unflattening the propaganda that distorted what was once beautiful, ancestral, communal.
Faith was never meant to be a weapon.Inner knowing was never meant to be heretical.Liberation begins where the story gets unflattened.
Alignment Is Not a Luxury. It’s Liberation Work.
One of the things Leah has always taught me is this: alignment is not optional self-care for the privileged. It’s survival. It’s strategy. It’s sacred.
Leah talked about her years in activist spaces — from small grassroots organizations to international work — and realizing that so much of what passed as “liberation work” was actually burnout on a timer:
* People were getting louder, not freer.
* Movements were busy, but not sustainable.
* Systems were challenged externally, but rarely dismantled internally.
When you start doing the work of alignment — truly understanding who you are, what your body needs, how your energy works, what your soul came here to do — you start to see something very clearly:
Your body and soul cannot survive inside the very systems you are upholding through participation. — Leah Tioxon
That’s where tools like astrology, human design, and Gene Keys have been so transformative for me. (and Leah’s signature program The Arc of Inner Knowing)
I am a Mental Projector.Leah is a Mental Projector.We are literally 2% of the population.
Knowing that changed everything about how I run my work:
* I build offerings around invitation, not constant chasing.
* I honor my need for rest and spaciousness, instead of trying to grind like a generator.
* Even my brand colors are aligned with my Sun, Moon, and Rising — because I want my entire ecosystem to feel like my chart: honest, rooted, and deeply me.
This isn’t aesthetics. This is anti-assimilation.This is refusing to contort myself into a shape supremacy culture can digest.
The Arc of Inner Knowing: What It Actually Looks Like
For those of you who were listening and wondering, “Okay, but what does it actually look like to work with Leah?” — here’s what she’s offering right now, and why I’m so damn excited about it.
🌙 The Arc of Inner Knowing (3-Session Journey)
This is Leah’s current signature seasonal offering: a three-session arc designed to help you remember and honor who you actually are — and to align your life with that truth.
Over three sessions (online or in person), you move through:
* Session 1: Soul Blueprint & Current Reality
* Looking at your astrology, Human Design, and Gene Keys.
* Naming your core longings.
* Naming where you feel alive, where you feel fractured, and where you feel like you’re performing something that isn’t you.
* Session 2: Interference, Fractures, and Courage
* Exploring inherent challenges in your design.
* Tracing life experiences that helped shape your patterns — for better and worse.
* Naming where you’ve been pulled out of alignment by systems, expectations, or survival.
* Getting honest about where you haven’t had the awareness, courage, or resources to choose yourself (yet).
* Session 3: Rhythm, Timing, and Next Steps
* Crafting a rhythm of alignment that actually fits your life.
* Identifying small, concrete practices that support your design.
* Setting up support: ongoing sessions, community offerings at Seed to Star, sound baths, herbs, stone allies, whatever resourcing makes sense for you.
It’s not a one-off “cute reading.”It’s a container for transformation.
And if you’re walking through this Season of Self, if you’re furling (yes, we made “furling” a verb and started the Furling Club), this is the kind of work that lets you arrive in spring actually ready to unfurl — instead of just repeating the same cycles with a different planner.
You can find Leah here:
* Instagram: @leahtrox
* Website: LeahTioxon.com
* Seed to Star Collective (Decatur, GA): community care, sound baths, herbs, and more.
And this is where the conversation with Leah went even deeper — into the fractures we carry, the courage it takes to return to ourselves, and the truth about what alignment really requires in a world built on extraction. Paid subscribers can continue reading below. $10 a month/$100 a year/$150 as an equity partner, and scholarships are available at: Scholarships@DesireeBStephens.com
