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The sexy power of play.
It may sound like an oxymoron yet childlike play gets you better adult sex. And it all to do with our primal brain.
Just imagine the pure, untamed and wild freedom of children at play. They run flapping their arms about, they laugh to just keep laughing, they tumble and fall, laugh more, get dirty, don’t care, allow snot to run down their faces…don’t care and still laugh. They can do this day in and day out because their nervous systems, know that they are safe. This comes from being loved and from belonging just as they are.
This is the essence of play. Play is not frivolous. It is not “childish.” I Child like yes, but not childish in a negative form. It is primal. It is actually wired into our nervous system. From birth, our primal brain is asking one essential question: Am I loved? Do I belong? Will I survive?
And play real, free, untethered play answers that question. “yes”
Yet as we grow older, we start to reject the play. We are told there is no time for it. That we need to grow up. So we get stiff and a little boring. We lose the freedom to be silly, to explore without agenda, which is essentially to risk without fear.
When we shut down play, we also shut ourselves off from pleasure. We cut off access to one of the most powerful gateways to turn-on, to intimacy, to erotic aliveness.
In Tantra, play is not optional, It is essential. Tantra teaches us that our erotic energy, our turn-on, comes from freedom. Freedom to move, freedom to express, freedom to be exactly who we are in each moment, without judgment or shame. And play is the bridge to that freedom.
When you laugh, when you dance, when you move spontaneously… your nervous system relaxes and your primal brain gets the message that you are safe by being loved and that you belong. And from that space of safety and freedom, erotic energy just naturally flows.
The research backs me up on this! Couples who bring humour, curiosity, and playful experimentation into their relationships report higher sexual satisfaction. Playfulness predicts openness to sexual variety, more adventurous intimacy, and deeper connection. The playful adult is often the most turned-on, the most adventurous, the most fully alive in their relationships.
BUT….
Many of us have one or more inner children holding us back. Sabotaging many areas of our lives. The repressed inner child will cause chaos in your life.
Children often feel powerless and have a lack of sense of control and we carry this through into adult hood. We carry through those aspects where we were taught it was not safe to be a certain way.
even though your adult brain will logically know that it is ok to do something, your inner child will still continue to shut down these aspects of yourself. ESPECIALLY in the bedroom. Showing up in the bedroom as a fully expressed man is SEXY... having your teenager there is not.!!!
Which is why today I am placing in the Tantric process I use with my 1:1 clients.
It is powerful as all f*ck…and doing this process has you f*cking better..
Go figure!
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