Ever noticed how much pressure there is for ‘good girls’ to perform compassion and for ‘strong boys’ to avoid it?
[00:00] Evie & Chelle share the gender expectations they're shaking off.
[02:00] Chelle shares Ah Ha #1: how early socialization creates deeply different relationships with compassion—women often perform it to earn love, while men armor up against it for survival.
[06:20] Evie introduces Tool #1: Reaching for Compassion with four steps: listen to learn, understand to know, connect to capabilities, and then act to solve.
[11:15] Evie shares Aha #2: Accountability isn't about blaming and punishing someone, but partnering together.
[12:42] Chelle introduces Tool #2: Own It with three questions to do our accountability work first: What's mine to own? Have I made my expectations clear? If boundaries were crossed, have I voiced it?
[17:57] Chelle shares Aha #3: We can't just do our own work—healthy accountability requires partnership.
[20:36] Evie shares Tool #3: Share the Load with four steps: get clear on expectations (for me, for you, for us), check motivation levels, decide how to track progress, and adjust as needed when things go off track.
[23:33] Chelle shares a vulnerable story about her son Charlie holding her accountable.
[30:54] Chelle summarizes the three ahas and three tools covered in the episode.
[34:22] Post-show discussion with Evie and Chelle.
