Have you ever felt stuck between two impossible choices—speak up and worry people will think you’re too much, or stay quiet and lose touch with who you really are? This is what Dr. Carol Gilligan calls a crisis of connection—caught between staying connected to others and staying connected to yourself.
[1:35] Carol shares the ‘good girl’ belief she’s shaking off.
[2:44] Carol explains how her research into ‘good girl’ behavior began.
[6:13] Chelle and Carol discuss how girls lose their voices by age 11.
[10:56] Carol introduces “the tyranny of nice and kind.”
[13:35] Carol explains how girls trade authenticity for approval.
[17:14] Carol explains the link between patriarchy and women’s silence.
[19:19] Chelle reflects on how ‘being good’ was taught as safety.
[20:48] Chelle and Carol explore how patriarchy silences men’s voices and creates a crisis of connection.
[28:34] Carol explains why empathy threatens hierarchies.
[32:52] Carol shares her closing statement that reclaiming our honest voice is an act of resistance — essential for democracy, equality, and true connection.
[34.25] Outro
