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Today’s Nugget
I am getting myself ready to go back on dating apps.My question here is how could I formulate in a simple - yet notrepulsive - way that I wish to find a partner but I am in no way lookingto live with any potential partner in the future? (I ask for specificformulations, I am autistic and it helps me to have some sort of"script" to express certain things).For context, I have 2 kids (9 & 11) in shared custody. I enjoy my livingsituation with 2 other queer adult roommates and my kids (in my own house).I have to say that I enjoy (and need) very much having my own space andtime alone. I don't want to take on the emotional and mental load thatit takes to share a common life in a common space. I've done it for 13+year and... been there, done that.My priority are my kids, my friends and my projects. I would very muchlike to meet someone in a romantic way and I'm ready to make some spacefor them in my life. I've been reflecting a lot on what my idealromantic life would look like and I believe that I am emotionallyavailable, just that I don't see myself living a more "traditional" life.So, how could I let them know - if it comes to it - that I seek apartnership where each of us would have their own space and activitiesand we would share time, love, activities but not share a living spaceand that we would keep some independence? Without sounding toounavailable for a real connection and relationship.ps: I am not looking to date exclusively cis men, I would prefer meetingother fellow queer people (I am non-binary), but the reality is thatmost queer people are looking for ethical non-monogamy and I am not(mainly because it sound soooooooooo exhausting and most people are notthat emotionally evolved to be good at ENM! Also, my many planets in Leoprefer to be the main characters of my potential partner's romantic life
). So my "pool" is pretty narrow and with cis men that would notidentify as queer.
Here’s what I want to know: In what way are you traditional or non-traditional?
Make sure to leave your answers and insights in the comments.
