Hello everyone, welcome to my weekly audio journal.
Today I'd like to start with a quote by psychologist William James "With no attempt there can be no failure; with no failure no humiliation. So our self-esteem in this world depends entirely on what we back ourselves to be and do." Thus it is determined by the ratio of our actualities to our suppose potentiality. Therefore self-esteem equals success divided by expectations.
Following an extract by Alain De Botton "The problem with our world is that it does not stop emphasising that success, calm, happiness and fulfilment could somehow, one day be ours. And in this way it never ceases to torture us. As with optimists, pessimists would like things to go well. But by recognising that many things can and probably will go wrong. The pessimist is adroitly placed to secure the good outcome both parties ultimately seek. It is the pessimist who have never expected anything to go right, ends up with one or two things to smile about.
So if you were to expect nothing like a pessimist and expect everything to go wrong. And only then you would have something to smile about then that's not the way. Rather, I think let's trade expectations for appreciation, as Tony Robbins often says. In that way we lose expectation but we also gain appreciation and gratitude. Then the formulae becomes self-esteem equals success divided by appreciation. With that formula in hand you're much more likely to increase your self-esteem. As you become more appreciative of the things that you have, rather than have these expectations that will undoubtedly disappoint you.
May this following week be full of appreciation rather than expectations. Thank you, everyone for listening.
