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MAD Coaching Habit Objectives
The main learning objective of this MAD Coaching Guide is to help you understand and engage in the process of intentional formation. You will learn to:
* Identify the forces that are shaping your life.
* Conduct a formation audit to become more self-aware.
* Implement practical steps to take back control of what you choose forms you and your future and foster intentional growth.
Key Topics
* The Forces of Formation: Habits, Relationships, Stories, Environment, Time and Experiences (HRSET)
* Conducting a Formation Audit: Self-awareness and Reflection.
* Practical Steps for Intentional Life and Spiritual Growth.
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Motivation: The Call to Transformation
Imagine waking up each morning feeling like your life is on autopilot, much like Kim did amidst the bustling streets of Singapore. With the constant buzzing of notifications, looming deadlines, and unanswered questions, her sense of purpose had dulled. This is a reality many face in today's fast-paced world. But what if you could steer your life with intention, like a ship finding its true course amid a sea of distractions? Inspired by Tom's wisdom, “Knowledge without application is like having a library in a locked room," consider unlocking your potential by intentionally shaping your life.
As Proverbs 4:26-27 (NIV) reminds us, "Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil." This scripture encourages intentional living by urging us to reflect on our life's direction and choices.
Remember Paul tells us in Romans 12:2 "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." Don’t continue allowing the social media titans and news cycles and the ways of this world be what shapes you, take back control of your own future and be completed changed by choosing to renew your mind with intentional thinking.
Acquire Knowledge: Understanding the Forces of Formation - HRSET
Understanding that your environment, habits, relationships, stories, and time—collectively known as the HRSET influences—continuously mould your brain is crucial. Neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to reorganise itself by forming new neural connections, is a powerful tool. As Tom highlighted, both science and ancient wisdom emphasise guarding your heart and mind to facilitate positive formation.
Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) states, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." This underscores the importance of being mindful of what impacts you and shaping your mental and spiritual environment. Are you consciously choosing what shapes you, or are circumstances deciding for you? Reflect on the environment and inputs you've allowed into your life.
Habits
Habits are powerful forces that shape our daily lives. As Charles Duhigg explains in "The Power of Habit," our routines can deeply influence our character and behavior. Reflect on your daily habits and consider how they are shaping you. Are they leading you towards positive growth or away from it?
Relationships
We become like the people we spend time with. Our relationships with family, friends, and colleagues have a profound impact on our formation. Consider the people in your life and how they influence your thoughts, actions, and beliefs.
Stories We Believe
Human brains are wired to search for meaning, and the stories we believe shape our perception of the good life, happiness, and purpose. Reflect on the stories you have internalised from your culture, media, and personal experiences. Are they aligned with your values?
Environment
Our environment, whether it's a small town, a global city, or the digital age, influences our behaviour and mindset. Reflect on how your surroundings shape your life and consider ways to create an environment that fosters growth.
Time and Experiences
Time and experiences are crucial in shaping our formation. Reflect on your past experiences and how they have influenced your journey. Consider how you can use your time more intentionally to foster intentional growth.
Knowledge Application: Conducting a Formation Audit
Just as Kim began to harness the power of intention, you too can start small. Notice how she turned off notifications, cleared her living space, and shifted her morning routine from checking emails to journaling.
You can undertake your own formation audit. We’ve created a downloadable PDF for you with questions in each H R SET area to prompt your reflection. Take your time with this audit and we recommend that you carve out a quiet space and time and be prepared to give it a half or full hour each day for 2 or 3 days.
Yes, we know it’s quite a commitment, but trust us that your time on this is well spent. It’s rare for anyone to really spend reflective time on themselves these days, let alone introspective time. But this is not to indulge yourself, nor is it a time to beat yourself up about how yo have allowed other people to shape your life. If you do spend a lot of time on social media, for example, who is shaping your thinking? The tech titans? advertisers? Influencers? Download the Formation audit PDF and your favourite note taking app or one of those ancient pen thingies and a pad of paper.
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