A friend and I were discussing the topic of people fighting. He told me this story of these two guys trading blows, because one had a beef with the other. Classic, you stole my girlfriend or something like that.
But as quickly as it started it quickly ended with the two men with blooded lips shaking hands and later becoming friends for quite some time.
I also heard a recent story told to me about how at first that he didn't get along with another employee. Thought the person to be lazy, manipulative, all out for themselves. So these two employees traded heated words all the time, ignored each other on occasions and just had this friction going all the time. But one day he decided to stop this and just really talked to him one-on-one, and now they are good friends and he doesn't think those negative things about that person anymore, like he first did during those friction time.
I have ran into that friction before. How do you arrive at to that point to actually get on the boat and cross the river? Do what we think about that person, either through experience, intuition or perception can be that wrong that this person could actually become a good friend?
It's very hard. Because I'm sure many people have experienced someone toxic to you for some reason and it may be a very good reason. I once had a boss that yelled and screamed at everybody, never was helpful and just tried to rule by intimidation and fear. A lot of people have experienced people like this at work life. My emotions on this person was that this dude was a bad guy, through a through.
I was lucky to escape this boss with a transfer, but he was still visible at work each day, so it wasn't a total escape. But one day law enforcement came in and arrested him for a very good reason. It turned out my intuition and perceptions were right. So how can I really be friends with that person? Could I still? Or are there people we truly need to keep a distance from and remain cold towards each other forever? I don't know what the answer is, but it is a thought in my mind as something we all have experienced, and we all deal with in in our own way.
