There is no other idiosyncrasy of a person than pain. Outwards looking into a person, we can never fully measure the pain a person is feeling or has gone through. No matter how detail or relatable the experience is communicated, it doesn’t seem to ever come through.
A person’s main pain can be physical, physiological or emotional, but it’s best described as whatever stresses is placed upon that individual that it causes major disruption to their productive lives. The one that trends to the top in a lot of individuals is fear.
Fear of the future, fear of death, fear of others, fear of the past, fear of the unknown, fear of all kinds. This tends to manifest itself in individuals in different ways when we experience a collective experience together. It is fascinating to see the differences of how one chooses to apply their fear in a pandemic, because there is a clear demarcation of those fears that goes in different directions.
The problem is that we often use fear to project our irrational behaviors or responses on others. Because we feel that they are not understanding or insensitive to our own position. This causes a theater curtain to fall and block conversations and a lost of personal connection.
That is why people tend to group together within the same ideology, faith, traditions, customs and beliefs. It is much easier to connect to people you can communicate your pain with when they return the same awareness or relation your pain instead of criticizing or mocking it.
Since we are all not the same and we all do not share the same main pain, we have chosen to cope with this idiosyncrasy by staying in tribes. There seems to be rare peacemakers that can communicate and bring together warring tribes from time to time, but it’s rare and if you are one. We need you!
