Hey y’all, This conversation with Dr. Eboni Truss made me think about how many of us are living lives that don’t actually belong to us. Not because we’re lazy. Not because we don’t know who we are. But because somewhere along the way, somebody else’s voice got louder than our own.
You know the ones:
* “Tone it down.”
* “Be seen, not heard.”
* “Speak when spoken to.”
* “Do as I say, not as I do.”
* “You’re too much.”
And just like that, we start trading our shine for approval. We start wearing masks, making “safe” choices, following paths that feel respectable on the outside but empty as hell on the inside. Before we even realize it, we’ve enrolled ourselves in somebody else’s dream and called it our own.
Dr. Eboni calls this the process of unbecoming — the unraveling of everything we were told we should be so we can get back to who we actually be. And whew, when I tell you that hit? Because I’ve been there. Hiding in plain sight. Denying my own impact. Letting people convince me to shrink so they could stay comfortable.
And here’s the kicker: people will clap for the version of you that fits their picture, even if it kills your spirit. They’ll say, “I’m proud of you” when you hit a milestone that matches their expectations, not yours. But what about when you deviate? What about when you say no to law school, or to the job that looks shiny on LinkedIn but feels like a slow death? What about when you finally stop pretending?
That’s the tension we sit in on this episode: the fight between the life you were told to want, and the life your spirit actually came here to live.
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And let me tell you — it’s exhausting trying to serve two masters. It will tear you up from the inside out. But the moment you catch it? The moment you realize, “Wait. This isn’t my dream. I’ve been living inside someone else’s story”…that’s the beginning of your freedom.
This episode is an invitation to start asking yourself:
* Where am I actually in alignment?
* What am I proud of me?
* Who am I outside of the masks and titles?
Because the truth is, God didn’t create you to be beige when you were born red. You don’t have to apologize for being the big fish. You don’t have to apologize for being too much.
So if you’ve ever felt the ache of living in a life that doesn’t feel like yours…if you’ve ever wondered who you’d be if you stopped carrying other people’s expectations…this one’s for you.
Let’s unbecome, together.
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xoxo,
Goddess Theadora
