This week was a heavy one. The murder of Charlie Kirk shook us, not because we shared his politics—we didn’t—but because we both believe that violence is never the answer. Taking a life is always wrong, and violence only breeds more violence.
Lisa found herself struck by how quickly misinformation, disinformation, and conspiracy theories spread. Even reputable outlets and political figures got key details wrong, and social media was filled with wild theories. As she scrolled, she was reminded of how easily our human brains lean into confirmation bias, seeking out information that matches what we already believe and ignoring the rest. Aaron pointed out how doomscrolling feeds that same cycle, keeping us locked in the swirl of uncertainty and fear.
We spent time talking about how to push back on those tendencies:
* Separate news from opinion. Old-school papers used to fence them off. Your feed mashes them together. Notice whether you’re reading verified reporting or commentary reacting to it. (Local outlets near the event can be especially useful for early factual updates.)
* Vet the byline and the source. Is it the real outlet or a look-alike page/account?
* Expect corrections. Early details are often wrong; responsible outlets correct as facts firm up. Build that into your mindset so updates feel like progress, not betrayal.
* Timebox your exposure. Especially at night. Close the apps; don’t go to bed with your brain spinning.
* Name the feeling; pick the action. If you’re anxious or angry, decide what constructive thing you’ll do next (walk, text a friend, donate, volunteer, or learn).
We also reflected on how (and when) to engage on social media. Aaron suggested starting with respect and common ground if you do respond, while Lisa added that sometimes the purpose isn’t just about convincing the original poster—it’s about giving others in the conversation a chance to see a different perspective. But honestly, a lot of the time, the wiser choice is simply to move on.
As always, we closed with some action steps. Lisa shared ways to support California’s Prop 50, opportunities to canvass and phone bank, Signs of Solidarity events, the upcoming No Kings Day on October 18th, postcard writing, and calling elected officials. These are the kinds of tangible, constructive things that help us channel energy away from the noise and toward something positive.
And, of course, we ended with our joyful moments. Our daughter Jolie came home—really to meet our new kitten Tucci—and we spent a wonderful day together at the de Young Museum and a long lunch out. In the midst of such a dark week, that time together was exactly the light we needed.
