For the past 2 weeks, I’ve secretly been off social media. I say secretly because I wanted to avoid having a Pitch Perfect Becca moment and drag my chair letting everyone know “I am leaving, no really I’m leaving, do you see me going?”
The amount of mental bandwidth I’ve spent making sure not to miss a “story-worthy” opportunity, not to mention, it’s the greatest thief of joy through self-comparison. I was living my daily life like it had a comment section waiting for someone to “like” my endless efforts required to market my business, prove that I have value based on an ambiguous number, and fearing every potential move I make as an opportunity for public rejection.
When I gave myself permission to not give any more f***s about what people thought, knew, or commented on my life, I feel like I actually started to pay more attention to the comments I make in my own head about my life. Comments that directly pointed to my own insecurities and limiting beliefs, that I conveniently blamed on the algorithm gods punishing me for not creating enough content.
It ALWAYS comes back to being ENOUGH.
I haven’t shared this story with very many people because I’ve been so afraid of the comment section, but this story is exactly what I’m talking about.
In June of 2020 when a LOT of people were putting black boxes on their instagram to support the BLM movement following George Floyd’s death, I did not. I watched, scared, from our very hot fifth-wheel trailer, tucked away next to a cornfield in the middle BFE Arizona desert. We were taking refuge there—trying to escape the chaos and hold onto the remnants of stability we could create while the world felt like it was falling apart.
I picked up my phone expecting a “Happy Birthday” text from a colleague I’d been planning a women’s retreat with — once “COVID passed.” But instead, it felt like the breath got knocked out of me, like birthday candles blown out too soon. She wasn’t texting to celebrate. She wanted to know why I hadn’t posted a black square and expressed concern about my lack of “engagement” on such a deeply social issue. Then proceeded to say some not nice things, when I told her I wasn’t going to pick sides on an issue that was way more comprehensive than posting a virtue signaling black box.
Hold your comments for a second and let’s talk about what really happened, because I can almost guarantee that this has happened to you. With a single post (or lack there of), someone made an entire assumption about my life, beliefs, politics, and, ultimately, my worth and value.
Here’s the part that feels shitty, she gets to. We all do.
We get to decide who we follow, who we vote for, who we love, who we want in our inner circle.
She made assumptions and accusations without being willing to sit in her discomfort and have a real conversation. She asked the questions she thought would bring her peace in a very confusing time by trying to see who was on the same team as her. I didn’t value the relationship enough to express my own true fears and stories around this topic.
She never asked me about what it’s like to grow up in South Georgia and be the only white kid in the all black church my dad was invited to be a guest preacher, where the services lasted three hours and the music was the most incredible thing I’ve ever heard. She never asked me about my first work mentor, a 300 pound, 6’4” former linebacker from University of Southern Mississippi, who taught me how to find the best fried catfish Hattiesburg and would come help me today if I called him. She never asked what it was like to work as the public relations officer for the first black man to run for governor of the state of Mississippi.
What would your life look if your comment section were closed?
I’m telling you this now, because today — after two weeks off social media — I got back on. Not to scroll. Not to post for the algorithm. But because I desperately want to tell women about my Empower Your Core course.
So I threw a Hail Mary. I sent about 20 messages to women I’ve coached or had some kind of connection with in the past.
And when I finished… I felt like s**t.
All those old feelings — of being misunderstood, of being too much or not enough — came rushing back like a tidal wave. The whirlwind of emotion hit harder than I expected.
I hate sending messages like that.It feels gross. Pushy. Desperate.
Lately, it’s like standing in a crowded room where everyone’s screaming for attention — and silently judging the person next to them for how they’re screaming.
IT’S THE WORST.
If you got one of my messages, please know:The offer is real.It’s genuine.And I specifically chose you.
How many times have you stopped yourself from sharing a story with a friend, expressing a desire to take a bold step into something new, or reaching out to talk through a complex emotion or belief…
Because you’re too afraid of the comment section?
Me?
EVERY DAMN DAY.
Creating quieter rooms….
I desperately want to get out of the influencer race — the one that makes me feel like my voice is being suffocated and my spirit smothered.
I want to invite you into a few different rooms.Quieter spaces.Places where you can actually hear yourself think.
Where you can share your story in a way that heals your soul —So you can start living without fear of the comment section.
Here are four rooms you’re invited to walk into — and take up space.No matter where you live.No matter your story.You are welcome here.
ROOM 1: EMPOWER YOUR CORE Live Group Coaching Calls on Wednesdays at 1:30 PT
Every Wednesday, I’ll be hosting a pelvic floor live group coaching session—completely free—to anyone who’s subscribed to my Substack or has purchased the self-paced Empower Your Core: Floor 101 course.
The Zoom link is already inside the course portal, so if you’ve signed up, you’re all set.If you haven’t grabbed the course yet, here’s a 20% off promo code just for you: YOUMATTER20
This group coaching series is designed to help you connect to your core in a deeper, more empowering way and is especially for women who want to feel strong, supported, and confident in their bodies—without shame or confusion.
The coaching is a space for you to ask personal questions, get guidance, and feel seen in your journey. I’ll be answering your questions live, so if there’s anything from the 10 minute daily pelvic floor support videos that you need support with, this is your space.
ROOM 2: LIVING YOGA 8-Week Series starting the first week of April
I used to HATE yoga. Back when I thought it was just boring stretching and matching pastel spandex outfits.
Yoga is more than movement — it’s a way of living.It’s a deeper relationship with yourself, and a way to navigate the world with clarity and grace.
It’s a space to learn how to ask better questions.To build the self-control to not pick up the great distractor — endless IG scrolling.To quiet the noise of insecurity and worry rolling around in your mind.
Living Yoga is an 8-week journey into the non-asana side of yoga, where you'll explore who you are and how you contribute—not by adding more to your to-do list, but by shifting how you engage with yourself and your life.
Yoga was traditionally taught as a one-on-one oral tradition, and this series honors that by bringing the wisdom of yoga into digestible, practical teachings that can help you stay grounded when your world feels overwhelming.
IN-PERSON at Iron Crane Yoga in Tucson, Arizona on Wednesdays at 9:30 a.m. starting April 2nd and on ZOOM on Thursdays at 4 p.m. (PT) starting April 3rd. You can join all 8 sessions or drop-in to the ones that sound the most interesting.
If you decide to pursue a 200-hour certification, these hours will count toward your final training. This series is about deepening your understanding of yourself and yoga without the weight of needing to perform or perfect. It’s a space for real conversations, embodied learning, and personal growth.
Room 3: The Movement Hub
Life is busy, and taking care of yourself often falls last. That’s why I created The Movement Hub—a fully online strength + yoga community that supports your body, mind, and spirit, without losing the connection that makes movement meaningful.
I want a place where you’ll learn about your body, how it works, how to take care of it, while not being restricted to a class time AND not losing the community you love about an in-person space.
The Movement Hub includes:
✅ New Iron Strength + Yoga classes each month✅ Monthly wellness bonuses (meditations, breathwork & more)✅ A Collective Contribution Call—a live Zoom space for connection, leadership & support✅ A growing video library you can access anytime
Founding Membership: $59/month (locked in as the library grows)ICY studio members: FREE add-on
This isn’t just fitness—it’s a place to move, grow, and belong.
Room 4: Empower Your Core Substack
If you’re reading this, then you’re already a free subscriber to my Substack blog, but I wanted to share more about the platform, my hopes for my this blog space and the benefits of becoming a paid subscriber for $10/month.
I feel like Substack is becoming the ultimate invitation to come into a private room with better conversations. I even have created a separate email address JUST for my Substack subscriptions, so that I can read them on my own time that I’ve gotten back from mindlessly scrolling.
Here’s what Empower Your Core Paid Subscriber’s are going to get:
* Access to the Empower Your Core weekly Live-Coaching Call on Wednesdays at 1:30 p.m. PT. You get this EVEN if you haven’t purchased the EYC 101 course (which you totally want to do, because it’s amazing!).
* Did You Know Your Mother Is In The Room emails on Wednesdays. This is a special series where my mother and I write back and forth with “no holds bar” on our relationship and friendship journey, grief, yoga, sex, menopause, and more! You might laugh out loud one week and want to give us a hug as we cry together the next. It’s been one of my favorite things to write lately. Read my first letter to her HERE
* Weekly Video Becoming Her Podcasts on Mondays. Becoming Her Podcast is my weekly coffee date with you — where we dive into real, detailed conversations about how we’re all becoming, together. You can absolutely listen on Apple, Spotify, or our website. But if you’re the kind of person who craves a more personal experience, I’ll be posting the video versions exclusively on Substack.
* The Deep Core emails on Fridays. To the core of my soul, I am an educator. While I could step away from teaching yoga classes, I will never stop teaching what yoga truly is — a way of living, moving, healing, and understanding your body.
Every Friday, I will send out meaty, no-fluff posts that get to the heart of it all:✧ Why pelvic floor therapy helps you stop peeing and have better orgasms✧ How to choose a gym if you’re not a “gym person”✧ How to move through menopause and your cycle with strength, not confusion✧ Nervous system education to stop PTSD relapses✧ The difference between a squat and a hinge✧ And what to do when your back screams during a workout
This is education that meets you in real life — raw, wise, and rooted in the truth of your body.
You’ve officially been invited.
I’m not going to stand in the room screaming to get your attention.I’m going to sit — peacefully — in the rooms I’m creating,Yeti cup of coffee in hand, and wait for you.
Even if you are the only one who shows up,we will have life-giving conversations —without the comparison, without the algorithms, without the distractions.
I hope you will join me, love.
Be Well, Be Blessed, Be Loved,
Namaste.
Jeanetta Bodie
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