I recently read a psychology blog about how, if as children we have been treated badly by someone (peer or elder to us)- say that we have been told bad things about ourselves or we have been told that we are good for nothing or even if we have not been given the required acknowledgement, as adults we are bound to accept that we have no right to be treated nicely or we will constantly normalize being spoken to rudely or we will accept it if someone does not do right by us. Not only that, we can blame our own self that maybe something is wrong with us.
I have been very interested in practical psychology since the beginning and I truly resonated and agreed to this. For example when I was a teen, I had a friend who was very close to me. I had got very attached to her and I used to try calling her up and talking to her everyday after school. Suddenly, one day she told me that her phone is not working and that she cannot talk to me. This seemed a little strange as I was sure her family would not be able to make do without a phone. A few days passed and I got to know from someone else that nothing had happened to her phone but it was just her not wanting to talk to me.
So since then it has affected all my friendships to a certain extent. It makes me think about not getting too attached to somebody or keeping a distance so it does not hurt me and also I don't end up being a “bore” to that person. My now- close friends would know this very well. So with their help I am slowly gaining back my self- confidence.
But my point is that if something like this has happened to you maybe you should reflect back on your childhood or teen memories and see if this was a result of your past or your history.
So that is it for this week’s blog.
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Also do let me know your story if something like this has ever happened to you?
I will catch up with you later guys.
Take care and stay safe.
Quote of the week:
Getting a text back does not validate your existence. If people are too busy to reply back to you, be too busy loving yourself to allow it to deflate your self- esteem.
-Vex King
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* Book- Good Life, Good Vibes by Vex King
