Have you ever had one of those days where a small inconvenience feels like a personal attack on your sanity?
Maybe a spilled coffee sends a jolt of rage through you. A mildly critical email from your boss makes you spiral into self-doubt for hours. Or a simple change of plans from a friend feels like a massive, day-ruining betrayal.
You know, logically, that your reaction feels bigger than the situation warrants. A little voice inside might even be saying, ‘Why are you getting so upset about this? Just shake it off.’
If any of that sounds familiar, I want you to take a deep breath and hear this: You are not overreacting, and you are not broken. Your nervous system is likely overwhelmed, and it’s doing exactly what it was taught to do to survive.
Think of your nervous system as your body’s smoke detector. Its job is to keep you safe from fire. But for many of us, because of our past experiences, that smoke detector has become exquisitely sensitive. It’s not just going off for a five-alarm fire; it’s blaring every time we make toast.
A minor stressor—the toast—feels like a major threat, and our body sounds the alarm. We go into fight, flight, or freeze. This is why you might snap at a loved one (fight), feel a sudden urge to cancel all your plans (flight), or find yourself unable to make a simple decision (freeze). It’s exhausting, and it’s not your fault.
So, where does this hyper-sensitivity come from?
It often comes from the ‘invisible backpack’ we’ve been carrying since childhood. Into this backpack went all the things we experienced and absorbed:
* The stress our parents were under.
* The pressure to be perfect.
* The times our feelings were dismissed or ignored.
* The difficult events we were told not to talk about.
We carry it for so long we forget it’s even there. We just assume life is supposed to feel this heavy. We spend our energy trying to manage the symptoms—the anxiety, the self-doubt, the disproportionate reactions—without ever having been taught how to look at the roots.
This is the exact reason I created a new, powerful tool I want to share with my Substack community first.
It’s called the HURRT Self-Assessment, which stands for Healing UnResolved Roots of Trauma.
This isn’t a test to be passed or failed. It is a private, gentle, and compassionate way to finally take off the backpack and look inside. It’s a roadmap to help you connect the dots between your past experiences and your present-day feelings. It walks you through three key areas:
* Adverse & Intergenerational Experiences: The tangible events and inherited family patterns you’ve carried.
* Emotional Neglect: The profound impact of what didn’t happen—the emotional support you may have missed.
* Strengths & Support Systems: The incredible resilience and points of light that have helped you survive.
Your reactions are not random. They are a story. Understanding that story is the first step toward regulating your nervous system and finding a sense of safety and peace within yourself.
If you are ready for clarity, I warmly invite you to take the assessment.
It’s completely free, 100% private, and takes about 5-10 minutes to complete. The insight you will gain is yours forever.
Click Here to Take the Free HURRT Self-Assessment Now
Link: https://www.flipyourmindset.com/hurrt
Taking this step is a profound act of self-care. It’s you, telling yourself: “My story matters, and I am ready to understand it.”
With support,
Stacey Uhrig
