Episode 20 — Why Being Happy Makes You Anxious
In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we explore a quiet, often unspoken experience: when life is going well, but joy still feels hard to access, trust, or sustain.
For many of us, the struggle isn’t survival anymore — it’s allowing ourselves to enjoy what we’ve built.
We talk about how anxiety can show up as waiting for “the other shoe to drop,” how joy can feel undeserved or unsafe, and how unfamiliarity with happiness can sometimes be a sign of depression that doesn’t look like sadness.
This conversation gently reframes joy not as something you earn, but something your nervous system has to learn how to tolerate.
In this episode, we explore:
* The anxiety of anticipating loss when things feel good
* Why some people feel unworthy of joy
* How survival mode teaches us to distrust happiness
* The difference between joy being absent vs. unfamiliar
* How depression can show up as emotional numbness or guardedness
* Letting joy exist without waiting for it to be taken away
This episode is for the woman who isn’t falling apart — but isn’t fully letting herself feel good either.
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⏱️ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS
00:00 — Welcome Back & Emotional Check-In02:10 — When Life Is Good but Joy Feels Hard05:48 — The Anxiety of the Other Shoe Dropping09:42 — Joy Feeling Unsafe or Undeserved13:55 — Survival Mode & Distrusting Happiness18:30 — Joy as Unfamiliar, Not Absent22:14 — When This Experience Can Be Depression26:40 — Emotional Guarding & Hypervigilance30:55 — Letting Yourself Feel Good Without Fear35:20 — Closing Reflections & Gentle Encouragement
⚠️ DISCLAIMER
The perspectives shared in this episode are based on personal experience, reflection, and ongoing education. I am not a licensed therapist, and nothing discussed in this podcast should be considered medical, clinical, or legally binding advice. Please seek support from a licensed mental health professional for guidance specific to your individual needs.
