Stable relationships are comfortable. They feel good. They feel safe…
BUT… there’s a hidden danger in that fleeting comfort: You can slowly lose yourself and not even notice, until it’s too late.
When you have a significant other that provides a reason to rest, as well as provides a reason for you to share your valuable time, it’s not unlikely that some sacrifices will need to be made in order to reach those relationship compromises and responsibilities. What usually ends up in the chopping block is self-development.
We may get into relationships and get so focused in nurturing that connection, that we lose focus on what made us attract this person in the first place. In this episode I discuss the 3 main reasons (and of course, there are many more) that some men let themselves go down a slippery slope of mediocrity and dissatisfaction.
Whether you’re in a relationship or not, you must always follow the path of the greatest result, rather than the path of least resistance.
If you take the time to study your situation, the first thing you may find is that you’re exhausted. Our already-limited energy is spent in completing tasks for the relationship as a priority. So once this finite energy is depleted, it’s difficult to get up and exercise, go to the gym, or even just have robust daily physical activity.
Relationships take a lot of effort and energy, and that’s energy not being spent on taking care of yourself.
Another factor is an attachment issue. Whether it’s from you towards her, or her towards you, the destructiveness of both possibilities meet the same fate. They both stop you from being able to move freely and take care of business. So, if she doesn’t want you to go to the gym, perhaps she’ll throw a bit of indirect guilt your way. Or, vise versa.
This type of attachment doesn’t just affect you in the physical sense of not being able to engage in a healthy workout routine, but if you look deeper, it’s probably affecting other areas in your life, as well. Be honest with yourself, and be careful of these behaviors, from either side, in any relationship.
The third reason is lack of motivation. But not because you’re not a motivated person, but because you’ve lost your why. You lost the reason you would want to become better. You don’t need to impress her. She says she loves your beer belly, and you believe it. It feels good to be accepted with flaws and all, so you lay there believing that you don’t need to do better, when deep inside, you know you’re lying to yourself. You know you would love to be in tip top shape. You would love for her to take you around her friends with pride… like, “yeah, that’s my man!” But comfort and excuses have become your modus operandi. You have dug yourself a hole that’s quite difficult to climb out of, if at all.
The above are the reasons for this self-failure. But the solution lies within YOU. You already know what you need to do! You’ve never forgotten that. Maybe you keep telling yourself every day that “you’ll start on Monday,” but, weeks and years go by, and that proverbial Monday never gets here.
Stop waiting until Monday. The time is now. You’re reading this because you needed to read this. This is resonating with you because you know it’s time to take action.
Or… you can just simply keep believing the lie that “you’re good enough already.”
It’s all up to you.
If you know know someone who should read this, please share.
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