In this ninth episode of Parts & Charts: The IFS and Astrology Podcast, Chelsea and KP get personal about dating, through the lens of inner parts, natal charts, and what we’re really looking for when we swipe right.
This episode invites you into a conversation that’s intimate, tender, and surprisingly analytical. KP reads Chelsea’s birth chart and explores how Venus, Mars, the Ascendant, and even Jupiter play a role in her dating style and relational patterns. Chelsea shares what parts show up on dates—from the charming performer to the loyal caretaker—and how they connect to her IFS practice and chart.
We get into what attraction really is, how it overlaps (or doesn’t) with value systems, and how parts come online when we’re seeking connection. There’s a little astrology lesson on first impressions (Ascendant), what we offer and desire in love (Venus), how we pursue it (Mars), and how we know when someone feels right. Spoiler: it’s not always in the bios.
This episode is for anyone trying to date with self-awareness, for the part that overanalyzes texts, and the part that dreams of soul recognition—even on apps.
Key Quotes:
* “Mars won’t let the chase happen unless the feelings are resonating.” — KP, on pursuit and Cancer energy
* “There’s a part of me that shows up on dates to make everyone else feel comfortable. It’s kind… but not romantic.” — Chelsea, on caretaker parts
* “Dating isn’t just about finding a match. It’s about seeing if you’re a match for yourself around someone else.” — KP, on the seventh house
* “Venus shows how we signal who’s ‘like us.’ That can be attraction, but also values.” — KP
* “Just send me a good poem and I’m in love.” — Chelsea, on Venus in Gemini
Timestamps & Key Topics:
00:00 – Sun-kissed returns & gloomy week reflections01:30 – Shared tarot pull: King of Pentacles as dating anchor03:00 – What parts show up when we talk about dating06:00 – The podcast’s spiritual function: lighten up, laugh, let go10:00 – Astrology 101: Ascendant, Venus, Mars, and dating dynamics14:00 – Venus in Gemini: Attraction, language, and love via reading lists20:00 – Mars in Cancer: Hesitant pursuit and needing emotional resonance26:00 – Duality in dating: confident vs. shy parts, polarizing impulses33:00 – Caretaking parts and the “friendly but not flirty” dilemma38:00 – KP’s theory: Jupiter in Aquarius in the 7th = idealistic partnership caretaking41:00 – Attracting air-sign vibes but craving emotional depth45:00 – Matching chatty minds with body-based connection48:00 – What to look for in your chart (and in potential matches)
Resources mentioned:
* All About Love by bell hooks (give it to your dates)
* No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz
* Learn your Venus, Mars, and Rising signs at astro.com
* Basic astrology tools: chart rulers, seventh house placements, and aspects
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Credits:
Music “Vape Juice Dave’s Bistro” composed by Scott Cary (Wild Western Avenue) for the feature film RINGOLEVIO (2020) directed by KP Kaszubowski - performed by Scott Cary, Max Wikoff, Else Albeck Gasparka, and Sarah Luther
The cover image is a collage by Chelsea Owens.
