I didn’t hit record to sound like a professor. I’m sharing this because I’ve lived it, and I’m still in the middle of it. Still learning how to listen to myself. Still unlearning some old emotional habits. Still learning how to hear the real me underneath all the programming.
Something came across my screen a while back that put me in deep thought. It said relationships and life can’t really work until you find yourself.
I’ve heard people say, “I need to find myself.” But what does that actually mean?
We’re not lost keys or some backpack we left in a car.
When I talk about finding yourself, I’m not talking about going off-grid or booking a retreat. I’m talking about finally sitting down with the version of you that’s been driving your life the one underneath all the roles, the people-pleasing, the overthinking, the survival mode.
It’s the version of you that you probably haven’t looked at in a while. Not because you didn’t care, but because life got busy. Expectations stacked up. Old patterns kicked in. And next thing you know, you’re reacting, not choosing. You’re following a rhythm that was never yours to begin with.
I want to talk about how your thoughts create your world.
This isn’t about ego or calling yourself a god. This is about recognizing the power you carry every day to shape what you invite, what you accept, and what you believe is possible.
Because the thoughts you feed and the ideas you repeat even the story you let spin when no one’s around that’s what’s driving the car. That’s the version of you making decisions. Who you connect with. What you settle for. What you don’t even bother to reach for.
And if you don’t stop and get clear on who’s actually behind the wheel, then a whole version of you that isn’t even real anymore might still be running the show.
Most of us are moving through life on default settings. We were taught how to function, not how to know ourselves.
So we carry around these scripts in our head. None of which came from your spirit. They came from survival.
And unless you pause long enough to ask, “Where did this even come from?” you’ll keep living out someone else’s old programming.
This isn’t just mindset talk either. There’s biology behind this.
Your thoughts literally impact your body, your nervous system, your hormones, and your immune response. Your beliefs shape what your body braces for or opens to. That includes love, trust, money, health…all of it.
There’s a researcher named Masaru Emoto who, in the early 2000s, ran experiments on water and the impact of words and intention.
He exposed water to different phrases. Some spoken, some written, some just thought. Then he froze the water and studied it under a microscope.
Here’s what he found:
•Say “thank you,” and the water formed clear, symmetrical crystals.
•Say “you disgust me” or “fool,” and the crystals became jagged and distorted.
•Words like “wisdom,” “truth,” and “eternal” all had a unique, balanced structure.
•It didn’t even matter what language was used. The energy changed the shape.
Our body is over 70% water.
Our brain? About 85%.
So when we think something kind, our body feels that.
And when we constantly repeat something harsh or heavy, that hits us too. Not just emotionally. Physically.
There’s even proof that polluted water improved after people prayed over it. Just intention alone had the power to shift its makeup.
So if words, sound, and emotion can reorganize water, what do you think they’re doing to us?
Let’s bring in music for a second. Not the lyrics, but the structure behind the sound.
This is why a song can make you cry when you don’t understand the language. Why a melody can pull a memory out of nowhere. Why a beat can make your body move before your brain catches up.
It’s not magic. It’s structure.
Every note has a frequency.
Every chord is a relationship between those frequencies.
And your body hears it all before you consciously process it.
Music theory isn’t just for musicians. It’s emotional patterning.
•Some chords create tension.
•Others feel like calm.
•Some pull you inward.
•Others open you up.
That same structure of tension and release, longing and reward, is also what shows up in toxic relationship cycles. The rhythm keeps you hooked.
It’s not just about what’s being said. It’s what your body is syncing to.
Here’s where things get real.
There’s something in biology called entrainment that’s when one system starts syncing to another.
Like when one person yawns and suddenly five more people start yawning too.
Or like water taking the shape of whatever container it’s in.
One article I read broke it down like this: if the rhythm in your environment stays consistent long enough, your body falls right in line.
And once that happens, the outside rhythm takes over.
You start calling stress “normal.”
You start choosing patterns that match what your body already expects.
That’s why it’s not just about cutting people off or switching playlists.
You have to retrain your nervous system to recognize peace not as boring or unfamiliar but as home.
In 1998, a quantum physicist ran a study that showed something wild.
Human consciousness can collapse quantum probabilities.
Basically, your focus helps decide which version of reality plays out.
But here’s the catch.
Most of us send out such a scrambled signal, reality doesn’t respond clearly.
Think about it like this:
You’re tuning a radio, but switching the station every second.
Hope. Fear. Doubt. Excitement. Guilt. Desire.
The signal never settles, so the field doesn’t deliver anything solid.
But when your thoughts, your emotions, your body, and your intention are all speaking the same language?
That’s when life starts responding to the real you.
In 2003, Princeton ran a study through their engineering lab.
They found that a human heart in a calm, steady emotional state could affect random number generators up to three miles away. I mean really?
Your emotional state sends out a measurable wave. This isn’t BS. This is field science.
So when you say, “Why aren’t my affirmations working?” or “Why do I keep ending up in jacked-up relationships?”
It’s because your signal’s not clear yet.
So here’s the real question:
What rhythm have you been tuned to?
If life feels off, if connection feels complicated, if you’re doing all the “right” things and it’s still not flowing,
It’s time to pause. Not to judge yourself, but to check your signal.
Ask yourself:
•What am I believing about me that I never chose?
•Who gave me that idea?
•And is it even true anymore?
Because the thoughts you feed, the music you listen to, the stories you tell yourself
They aren’t just passing through.
They’re shaping your health, your relationships, and the future you’re trying to build.
You are not your fear.
You’re definitely not that old identity you had to put on to get through.
And dang it, you’re not someone else’s version of “enough.”
You are the one who’s been watching it all quietly.
And that part of you? That’s the real power.
Before you try to fix the relationship or vision board your way into something new
Find the mirror.
Find the version of you that’s been waiting to be seen.
Because once you really find the real you, everything else starts clicking into place.
Your relationships.
Your nervous system.
Your patterns.
Your peace.
The whole point of this is about getting clear on who you actually are and letting that lead.
I want to share a song that brings this all together.
All This Me isn’t about ego.
It’s what it feels like when you’ve cleared the field, reclaimed your rhythm, and decided to show up as the real you.
Much love and clarity to you.
*Song attached “All This Me” will be live soon in the album Already Enough @ImagineMeInnovation on all music platforms!
