Sippin on Straight Chlorine…⚠️
* You don’t need a diagnosis to know someone is dangerous or unhealthy: your gut knows.🐞
* It is not just people in documentaries that are harmful📺: it isoften the people in our lives that are not willing to listen to your feelings or consider how they’re affecting you☠️
A Jar of Hearts…🫙
Narcissists are….
* often the most interesting, attractive and harmful individuals in the room.😏
* They ask you intimate, interesting questions about your life, what you’re up to and how your family is👀
* or they do not like listening to you or getting into deep convos🙉
* They often have good values. 💛
* They feel bad and have empathy for others and other’s hardships😭 (and, you, too! sometimes.)😏🙃
* they adore and take good care of your pets 🐕🐾 (unfortunately, they’ll hardly lift a finger for you😴; possibly a pocketbook or an inauthentic gift on a good day.)🤑
* they’re often hardworking, creative, intelligent: top of their class, best at their job, “smartest in the room”
* They may have your coffee and favorite food order memorized🫖
* or they cannot remember what you like no matter how many times you’ve told them🤔🙄
Another One Bites The Personality…🔂
Personality is not simple to change. 😵💫
Like, you probalby benefit off of your bubbly, focused, calm personality.🫧
People reallyy like you!👯♀️
So, you probably don’t want to change your personality too much🥸
and neither does someone with narcissistic behaviorbecause their personality benefits them.🧠
And, who likes to change things so they are doing more work and getting less benefit? Probably not many… Not super appealing!😕
You’re better off, I’m Glad Their Gone… because…🙅♀️
* you are negatively affected by individuals who are not emotionally available
* you are likely physically affected:
* not cutting your hair💇🏻♂️
* not putting effort into your looks 💅
* not spending time with friends and family🏜️
* you will likely take on shame and negative beliefs because of the trauma from the relationship😤
* when someone puts you down, says you dont matter, you will take on the beliefs that you don’t matter and you do not have value🐭
* you dont want people to notice you, you’re trying to blend into the background😶🌫️
* you struggle growing in your career or being promoted quickly 😒
* or struggle advocating for yourself with others, telling people you want more money or more support or more of your needs met than is currently being offered 😔
* or you won’t go out or have fun without feeling guilty or give yourself grace with mistakes because you’ve been conditioned to feel horrible about your actions and yourself.😣
* Most importantly, you deserve a happy, growing, healing relationship away from toxic individuals so you can flourish💜🌺
Right Where You Left Me….🗺️
People showing up with narcissistic personality behavior will show up complacent in one way or another like…
* how they refuse to spend time with your family🥳
* they consistently lie about themselves (or others) or only have a million reasons for their own poor behavior
* refusing to exercise, go to therapy, take care of themselves
* probably hate their dentist, their doctor, one of their best friends or their neighbor and certainly cant be reasoned with by expert info, or any common sense to change the situation or relationship
* only personal experiences shape their beliefs
* ie: they feel theyre always unrecognized and left out in the cold
* or they feel it is someone else’s fault or due to painful experiences they are the way they are and they way they are supposed to stay
* they always know what is best
* refusing to spend time out in public or with your friends 🍽️
* they want you all to themselves (all the time)⛓️
* they are probably tracking your location📍 and expect you to always show up on time ⏰
* invading your privacy :
* going through your phone, your mail, your journals,
* needing to have a say over or having an opinion of all your relationships(you can’t have anyby yourself, sorry, no autonomy, ok?)
* they probably want to make decisions for you and NOT with you like…
* bringing home people or animals without asking
* buying cars, extravagent gifts, vacations without consideration for your wants/needs
* telling you how to speak with other people about them or your relationship or asking you frequently (surveillancing) how you feel about them, if you think positively of them or negatively
Thanks for reading Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour ! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.
Baby, Run.🏁
* You will always have to adjust and devalue yourself around people who don’t respect you.
* Your subconscious knows you very well, and when you are unhappy and settling whether or not you admit it. 💔
* These relationships create unncessary stress to your nervous system 👵🏻👴🏻 (aka speeds up sickness, and creates autoimmune and other diseases)
* literally affects your entire family dynamic, how you show up in realtionships and for yourself, and your life purpose
* Most importantly, you deserve a happy, growing, healing relationship away from toxic individuals so you can flourish💜🌺
**Can youuu tell I love talking about thiss subject? If you’re feeling the headings are random, theyre all song title inspired.🙃
Does this sound like anyone you know or have experienced?
These are only a few examples of how narcissistic personality behavior shows up, and is discussed to show examples of deception with insecure individuals so you can consider and be made aware of the effects of dangerous relationships and the options of safe decisions for yourself and your well being . It is not to demonize or hate individuals or belittle their experience or personality🧂**
Thank you for reading🤎
Ashley
