In this episode of Lead to Soar, Michelle Redfern is joined by leadership advisor, author, and speaker Selena Rezvani for a practical conversation about confidence at work—what it is, what it isn’t, and why so much advice aimed at women misses the point.
Rather than treating confidence as a personality trait or mindset problem, Selena’s work focuses on small, visible actions that build credibility over time, especially in environments that were not designed to support women or marginalised leaders.
Together, Michelle and Selena talk about how confidence is shaped by context, power, and feedback loops at work, and why women are so often told to “be more confident” without being given the conditions or permission to practise it.
In this episode, they discuss:
How gender and power shape who is seen as confident at work
What to do when confidence advice ignores the reality of biased systems
How to accept praise without deflecting or diminishing your contribution
The role of self-promotion in leadership credibility
Why confidence grows through behaviour, not positive self-talk
How to develop an internal “confidence coach” that supports judgement, not noise
This episode is for women who are tired of being told confidence is the issue—and want practical ways to show up with clarity, authority, and credibility.
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