In this episode of the Lead to Soar podcast, Michelle Redfern and Mel Butcher are joined by Tara Furiani, founder of Not the HR Lady, for a direct conversation about workplace behaviour that organisations excuse, minimise, or dress up as “culture.”
This is not a discussion about policies on paper. It is about what actually happens when leaders avoid conflict, HR plays defence, and harmful behaviour is allowed to persist because someone is “valuable.”
Together, they talk candidly about what leaders need to expect from HR, what HR must stop protecting, and why calling out workplace b******t is a leadership responsibility, not a personality trait.
Yes, the term Fuckeroni Pizza makes an appearance. It is funny because it is accurate.
In this episode, we cover
How leaders should work with HR to support women at work, not manage complaints away
Why HR must stop absorbing organisational risk on behalf of poor leadership
The behaviours organisations tolerate that drive women out
How “brilliant” performance is used to excuse unacceptable conduct
Why calling b******t is necessary for culture change, not a lack of professionalism
What accountability looks like when leaders actually mean it
Who this episode is for
Leaders who want HR to be a strategic partner, not a clean-up crew
HR professionals tired of being asked to defend the indefensible
Women navigating workplaces where behaviour is minimised until it becomes damage
Anyone done with performative values and ready for real standards
Resources
Not the HR Lady: https://www.notthehrlady.com
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