We’ve all met this leader: pleasant, agreeable, and conflict-avoidant—the kind of manager everyone likes but few respect.
In this Lead to Soar episode, Michelle Redfern and Mel Butcher dissect the “too nice to lead” phenomenon and offer practical strategies for ambitious professionals who report to an ineffective manager.What you’ll learn:• How to identify when niceness has replaced effectiveness• Why conflict avoidance erodes standards and trust• Scripts and strategies for managing up with outcomes and data• How to protect your energy and career progression while navigating underpowered leadership• What organisations must do to stop promoting accidental managersKey takeaway: Being nice doesn’t make someone a good leader—clarity, courage, and competence do.
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