This episode is a real time riff on radical curiosity. Not the polished, self help kind. The kind you actually reach for when you’re spiraling, overthinking, or stuck in the same damn conversations with the people you love.
We start with the question most of us avoid:
What if you’re wrong?
What if your belief isn’t the best version of it?
What if your life could actually get better?
Wouldn’t that be fucking sick?
In this episode, I talk about how curiosity has become one of my most reliable tools for getting out of rumination loops, emotional spirals, and that familiar place where one moment turns into permanence.
We explore what happens when you:
Stop entering conversations trying to prove a point
Let things unfold instead of forcing outcomes
Add a little whimsy or bewilderment instead of certainty
Pause before turning discomfort into anger or conclusions
Remember that everything is temporary even the stuff that sucks
I also talk honestly about overthinking, gut reactions, and how we often confuse intuition with our first knee-jerk fear response.
Sometimes the work isn’t trusting your gut.
Sometimes it’s slowing down long enough to understand it.
And yes, this is the episode where I tell the story of how radical curiosity is literally how I met my husband.
Not on a planned date.
Not by “putting myself out there.”
But while I was on the world’s worst Bumble date with a man who lied about his age, had zero chemistry, was a close talker, tried to touch my hair, and was missing a very noticeable number of teeth.
Instead of shutting down, I got curious.
I overheard a conversation.
I walked over.
I shot my shot.
I slid my card across the table.
He didn’t call — at first.
He texted the wrong number.
I missed it for weeks.
And somehow, here we are.
That moment didn’t come from confidence or certainty.
It came from curiosity and trusting myself in real time.
This episode is about inviting people into your world and letting them invite you into theirs. About hearing someone out even when you don’t agree. About asking, what else could be true? instead of deciding everything is doomed.
You don’t have to change your mind.
You don’t have to agree.
You just have to stay open long enough to choose instead of react.
We talk about:
Why certainty feels safe but shrinks your world
How curiosity makes your world bigger
Why questioning yourself isn’t weakness it’s clarity
How so many of our beliefs came from everyone but us
What happens when you stop committing to “everything is going to suck”
And yes — why curiosity doesn’t have to kill the cat.
As an alley cat named Alli, I can confirm: satisfaction brings it back.
Be curious.
Be fucking radically curious.
See if your world gets a little bigger.
Companion Piece
This episode is paired with a written piece on Substack that explores these ideas in a quieter, slower way — if you want space to reflect after listening.
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